The Online Autistic Artistic Carnival is a showcase of various talents from Autistic people of all ages from music to art to writing to acting/Video documentaries to all artistic and scientific inventions are welcome. Autistic people can submit to Drive Mom Crazy blog starting March 17 through June 17! All submissions can be sent by email to a autisticprideday@gmail.com !. All work will be posted on June 18, Autistic Pride Day!
OUT, J
by theamazinJ
Death
hurts
smiles
loves
hates
a part of what is
a part of what needs to be
living our life
to living beyond thinking about death.
Life is always filled with so much joy
and a reason to shine our energy
very bright and strong.
We envision the roots of our
energy to lift us higher and higher
and higher until it reaches our peak
when we are old enough to move on.
Life exists and so do we,
so make it a good one
and never regret, always accept anyone,
never taking anything for granted or
taking advantage of others.
Life is purely a burst of energy
filled with colorful diversity.
Brighten yourself up beyond death
and live your life the way it
was meant to be,
embracing the colors of the diversity of the rainbow
and giving a helping hand.
There are always turning points from our intuition that tell us what to do to make it all better. Listen to your intuition, listen carefully to what it has to say. We may sometimes feel angry, we may sometimes feel sad, we may sometimes feel hurt, though we need to feel that life gives us the moments to see beyond that. Life gives us a means of transpiring toward acceptance. It’s so important to accept everyone. By accepting everyone, we accept that no body can change things they can’t control. You can only change what you can control. The Autism Acceptance Decade from 2010 to 2020 is trying to tell everyone that people need to just let things be and let things come in time. It may be heartbreaking for any parent to know their child is different, but it does not mean that being different is wrong. Being different just means that Neurotypical people need to let differences matter. Not every one has the same feelings, the same ambitions, and the same intuitions. Every one knows the differences we have, but everyone wants their own success. A lot of Autistic people or people on the Autistic spectrum feel pressured by Neurotypical society when we interact with others. They insist on certain qualities like eye contact, talking, and don’t rely on nonverbal communication. They program those who are most influenced to do so because they insist that that is the only way to listen by speaking by your physical voice coming from the mouth. This only makes people on the Autistic spectrum feel like they can only talk to communicate when it does not come natural to us. That is when we begin to have to learn boundaries of talking through physical voice. If Autistic people were the majority, we would not be speaking by physical voice, we would not make eye contact, and we would rely on our nonverbal communication with others. Think about how life would feel to you if that were the case. Though that is not the case. We live in a society that insists on all these things for interactions. Some people say people who are not as Autistic as others or considered mild, feel more pressure to do these things due to being closer to being Neurotypical. So, we are urged to learn more about NT culture. It’s about time to only control what you can control because you can not control who comes in to your life. Everyone from the Autistic to Neurotypical spectrums, need to live here together as it stands now. By living together, everyone needs to know that there needs to be a common respect for each other. It’s important to know the people who come in to your life at single moment need to feel life will be successful for them by experiencing you. However, anyone who enters into your life is meant to for a reason. It’s the reason you need to figure out for yourself to know why. Live your life well to experience what you want and who you want to interact with to make yourself successful.
Autistic Pride Day is in exactly 1 month which means everyone has 1 more month to submit your work to be seen on this blog for Autistic Artistic Carnival!!!
OUT, J
by theamazinJ
I sense the light,
As an angel who
senses,
feels,
who brings love
and peace to the world.
Love is something
that we all need
so as to heal the world,
the world that needs healing
from the negative emotions
affecting so many people.
Positive emotions and feelings
don’t hurt, but are
less strong than
anyone of us knows.
I love, you love,
but we don’t need
the hate most of you feel
at the moment.
Hate that destroys
a person’s character
whether you feel the
person is less cognizant
than you, less of a person than you,
because they certainly are not.
Anyone you look at is a person,
is a human being, is a remarkable lightening
bolt the world loves.
People are people who need
to feel loved, who need to feel
what they want to feel,
whether they are less cognizant
of a person or not, they
need the strength they endure always.
I sense the light and
what you know about me is
that I am here to heal and
Everyone needs to be healed.
No one can experience
healing everyone at once.
We need to heal from each person’s
personal story too.
When we heal, we feel stronger
and can move on and forward.
Am I here for a reason?
Absolutely! I am here to help, to heal, to experience my life
the way I want it to be.
My healing powers only heal
When I am healed, then I help more,
but healing takes time
to experience the moments of life.
I am an Angel with purpose
to lift my purpose high!
I can do, I can be,
I am thou, like you.
Remember your purpose and what you can do for yourself to live your life. Angels are objective to the world’s surroundings while most people are not. It’s time for the beauty of life to experience what Diversity has always given us being neuro-cognitive diversity to allow the world to accept people to develop positive abilities. Living in this world with diversity and accepting diversity tells us that just because a person stims or just because a person seems different in any way does not mean they can not do whatever they set their minds to do. Success is best when not only do we believe in ourselves for healing who we are, but others have the all knowing in their minds that anyone can do anything positive for this world!!! Believe what you can do and feel the love deep down inside 
Be well and don’t forget Autistic Artistic Carnival is coming soon for Autistic Pride Day 2013 on Drive Mom Crazy Blog!!!
Peace,
J
Being Autistic and having a star fall on you only exists in time when you connect with another person you’ve always needed. Think about the people you engage with and hopefully you find the love of your dreams.
Have a great day!
OUT, J
Here is a list of things to remember to create your own boundaries that help me:
1) Set yourself up in situations with others where you can be trusted
2) Make a list of all the personal things and people you trust to tell these personal things to
3) When talking to other people randomly, remember the ABC’s of conversational skills, a) Attuning to what the other person is asking so as to not appear without a filter, b) remembering the B information to give is not the same as the A information which is your personal life, c) Be Concrete and Conspicuous to what the other person is asking, i.e, Never let the other person take control of your life, it’s your life not theirs!!
4) Remember if you are in a private confidential setting talking to someone or in a public domain, for example, therapist, family, or close friend. (by close friend I mean someone who cares about you and you know a long time)
5) Disregard questions you find too offensive to answer because people are being nosy!!
6) Set up a day to vent in private room to meditate to relax about things you don’t need to say, but feel the urge to say, then express that to the list of people you can trust.
7) Not every one is a friend you can trust, there are different levels of friendship. Trust needs to be built in time.
Boundaries are hard to build, but with practice it can be done. It might take a long time to build trust with other people. In the end it will happen and you will know that boundaries exist. Acceptance is not just about accepting yourself, but accepting others too. By accepting yourself and others, you accept and create boundaries between others.
A better way of life is being strong about who you are and what you can do to not be pushed around. One thing I definitely learned in my life is just because someone smiles at you does not mean they are being a friend, they may just want more information from you. What is a smile anyway? If we can not trust a simple smile, then what can we trust.
Instead we need to be stronger and more guarded at what we say to others. People like us for several reasons. It’s important to remember to be endearing, kind, smart, bright, positive, trusting, stronger, and the awesome person that we can be. I know a lot of people want to get to know me. They feel they are attracted to good energy when with me. Though I have boundaries too and care about certain people in my life. It’s good to get to know others, but it’s also good to create situations for trust. I feel I need to reflect on myself, my family, and the friends I have. I reflect on This Emotional Life series I was on when Chevy Chase said he only has 3 friends. Well, if he only has 3 friends, then that is amazing since most people are lucky to have just 1 good friend.
Facebook or Twitter is interesting because people are obsessed with how many friends or followers they have. People have 5,000 friends on Facebook or 1,000 followers on Twitter, but how many of those people are truly friends. I do think social media is a good thing because it makes the a world better place that is well connected. It’s good to be connected on social media because it’s a learning technique to be with other people. It creates ways to interact with people who you can relate to you and give added support. It also helps with interactions. It’s important to be connected to someone you relate to and share with that person. The world is becoming a connected network, but we still need to know that a person is not necessarily a friend at first site. Every one has an agenda and every one wants something from another person. So remember to keep your boundaries handy on a piece of paper you keep in your wallet as to open it when you feel it is necessary to remember what we wrote to ourself. If someone knows they can take my hand for instance, they will take my whole arm and eventually my body. We own our mind, body, and spirit for a reason. We can’t just take it for granted and just give it away! Remember you own yourself and I own me. We are all in control of our own lives. We need to take it easy to respect ourselves and others.
Have a good Mother’s Day!!
OUT, J
It’s good to fall in love with someone you want to be with even though I am still searching. Although it is also good to take it slow with baby steps as to not play it too hard. Love is in the air all the time, but we need to understand what love is. Most of us do understand what love is, but a lot of us do not. It’s a complicated process.
Being in love for an Autistic person means many questions being drawn to us. A lot of times we act, think, and do things quicker when we find love. Autistic people need love too, but we need to slow that thinking down in order to enjoy it. It’s a challenge for us. That’s why falling in love is so difficult. Either being with another Autistic or a Neurotypical person, it probably would be easier for a lot of people on the Autistic spectrum to be involved with another Autistic person. Why? Because Neurotypical people tend to not understand what it’s like to be Autistic and winds up being a bigger challenge for us. Either fall in love or live in solitude, that’s the choice we all need to make.
It’s hard for a lot of Autistic people to be open minded about love when comes to our special interests or religion. Though we are less judgmental! I feel though we fall in love very easily because we are open minded about being with just about anyone that we feel we can relate to. We are very open minded in that sense, but when it comes down to thinking about our special interests our thinking turns black and white. We love to love just like anyone else. However we need to be conscious of our black and white thinking. Just because a person dates, does not mean the two will get married at least not right away. And what is marriage anyway? Well, it’s when 2 people fall in love, engage in each other’s intimacy, and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. Anyone can marry anyone. There is someone for everyone. It’s just a matter of knowing who you want to marry. It’s a process of love, finding it, embracing it, spreading it, and spending time with the love of who you want to be with. 2 people should not be expelled from society because they want to marry. That would be ridiculous if society expelled anyone for falling in love and wanting to marry!
Love can be very tricky for an Autistic person at large. Though it’s important to keep an open mind about meeting anyone because you never know who you can fall in love with as a single person. Religion is man-made interpretations of what spirituality really is. Being in the universe, we need to feel the love around us because we need to eventually know that we contributed positively to the universe as a whole to build our own heaven. If we don’t, we go down the black hole in to nothingness where we engage in negative feelings.
So when do we find love? We will find love only when we engage with someone who we are willing to fill our hearts up without thinking about who and what the person is without thinking about why we are in love. The universe puts two people together to fall in love for a reason to show what love is. You can either take it or leave it, but never regret what the universe does. Every thing happens for a reason. Whether we fall in love or not, depends on what the universe wants from us. Not everyone is meant to fall in love supposedly, but everyone needs some kind of love to feel worthwhile and knowing that they are a part of the universe too. Otherwise the person will not feel loved and begin to hate the world. There are different ways to engage in love. Most people express it with sex while some others express love with their feelings and passions.
My advice for all those Autistic people particularly the adult population who are seeking love is to remind yourself to take 1 step at a time always slowing down the mind to not think of impulsive reactions like telling another person how much you love them. Love can trick anyone to not take it slowly. We need to let nature take it’s course to allow love between 2 people to develop the intimacy to lead up to the physical parts. Sex and sexuality are the most engaging parts of human nature. Expressing sexuality is important for anyone to not be afraid of, though sex itself is the most intimate part of what two human beings can do together. Neurotypical people tend to go straight to the sex without thinking about getting to know a person. However, sex is very powerful and the strongest intimacy two people can engage in. It can also be very painful for both people involved because either one or both of the people involved can get emotionally, physically, or spiritually hurt. What I mean by physical pain is sex can be very uncomfortable, confusing, and deeply painful touching between 2 people. Sex is not to played around with and people need to respect others first before engaging in sex. It’s so important for both parties involved in sexual activity whether a Neurotypical or Autistic person as a whole human race, to know that sex is only fun when you know who you want to love, if you choose it. Though it’s not for everyone which is why there is Asexuality.
Hope you have a great weekend!!
OUT, J