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For June 18, 2015: 6th Annual Autistic Artistic Carnival is ready for submissions to be accepted starting April 1st for June 18th Online event on my blog!

Have no FEAR, have no ANGER, have no HATE…why????? Because the love of the Autistic Artistic Carnival is coming soon this JUNE…

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REMEMBER:::

It is for any Autistic person from all ages from all over the world to create or invent something they would like to share on the online June 18th event for Autistic Pride Day!!!!! YAY YAY YAY YAY!!!

Have no FEAR, have no ANGER, have no HATE…why????? Because the love of the Autistic Artistic Carnival is coming back once again for Autistic Pride Day June 18!!!! That means that this is the 6th annual ONLINE event!!!! remember it’s always for all ages for ALL Autistic people in this culture of Disability Culture.

It could be past Carnival participants, classmates of mine in graduate school, professors I have, any one else at CUNY SPS, Adaptations members at the JCC in Manhattan, an Autistic Self-Advocacy Network member, or any one with a good idea!!

The Online Carnival will be AMAZING!!!!! And BETTER than any other year that it was produced ever as we reach the 10th year annual where there will be a REAL in person CARNIVAL!!!!!!!

Thank you ALL and please be patient…

CALLING all Artists, Writers, Musicians, Film people, inventors, etc. come one, come all!!!!!

WE Autistic people in Autistic culture are just as great as the MAINSTREAM general society too :)

Hey, here is the banner I came up with on my own as I am feeling relaxed and focused on my tasks!!

Submissions will be accepted at autisticprideday@gmail.com and will be posted on June 18, 2015 for the Online event on this blog…

Autistic Pride Day 2015 and the 6th Annual Autistic Artistic Carnival

I shift myself up,
I shift myself closer,
I send my love,
I heal the generations,
I feel,
I sign,
I move,
I move a lot,
and most importantly,
I follow my dream,
I am a Disabled activist,
I am Autistic,
I am Neurodivergent,
I am big,
I am small,
I am grounded,
I am alive,
I am part of life,
but mostly I am gone as
I am generations a part,
I failed,
but now I win.
I made mistakes in the past
when doing things that
didn’t suit me,
but now I am me,
I am doing what is me,
and what I want
to help the world,
to help change the perceptions
about autism and disability
from the stigmatizing
media campaigns
and organizations like Autism Speaks,
but most importantly
to keep things positive
and cheerful,
I would like to wish
you all a very
HAPPY AUTISTIC PRIDE DAY 2015!!!

I would like to thank Landon Bryce at thAutcast, Kelly Green, Artists and Autism Facebook page, and Leah Kelly at 30 Days of Autism Blog, and the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network, but most importantly Aspies For Freedom who started this day years before in the early 2000’s!

NOW, go and enjoy the CARNIVAL!!!!

OUT, J

10 ways Non-autistic people tell Autistic people to Pass For Normal is Stigmatizing and Does Not Allow For Authenticity

1) When an Autistic person is told to pass for normal, we are usually told AAC is not allowed to communicate with others. The people we interact with tell us that we must speak through our mouths.
2) When an Autistic person moves differently through ticks and stimming and the way we walk down the street, we are told that we must not do that and in fact must ‘Quiet Hands’.
3) When an Autistic person desires to be by themselves, non-autistic people think it’s weird, unusual, and/or strange making us look like freaks and weirdos.
4) When an Autistic person fulfills a dream of a painting, writing, music, inventions, or other special interests so the world can enjoy something from us, we are often told we are obsessing over things and to enjoy life without thinking.
5) When an Autistic person wants to spend time with animals more than people, we are told to spend more time with people.
6) When an Autistic person prefers to hang out with other Autistics because we feel less pressure to pass we are often told our Autistic friends are too weird.
7) When an Autistic person interacts with non-autistic people, we are told we lack the social skills necessary to interact with them. However, we are often not taught the real social skills (check out the REAL social skills) and often are only taught social skills from a child-like or very basic thing.
8) When an Autistic person is advocating for themselves and the Autistic community, we are often told we are being rebellious, obstinate, or misbehaving.
9) When an Autistic person uses their voice to speak, we are often told to lower our voices or raise our voices. We are never encouraged to use AAC (Augmentative and Assistive Communication devices) unless a non-autistic person truly has trouble understanding the Autistic person. Then, the non-autistic person typically mocks or mimics the Autistic person who uses AAC.
10) All too often Autistic people are mocked or mimicked for being Autistic and used as the ‘joke’ or for ‘comedy’.

By these Non-autistic ways toward Autistic people, we are far too often not allowed to be our authentic selves. Autism is a different way of life, it is a different dialect, different language, different way to move, and different sensory experience. Every Autistic person expresses autism differently. That is the beauty of Autistic culture.

Believe it and hopefully those non-autistic people stop making Autistic people feel too anxious to ‘pass’ for a normal that is too stigmatizing from the medical model. Thus, we are far too often stereotyped as well and for those Autistic people who do try to conform to the normal way from society are far too often objectified or seen as ‘posters of inspiration porn’.

AAC is important to me for communicate like any other Autistic person, but like many others like myself have always been told to ‘pass’ instead.

OUT, J

How to Encourage any Autistic person In Leading Their Own Life

There is a difference between ABA and floor-time, and there is a difference in what we really can do for my Autistic peers and I who need to be able to live self-directed lives. We need to realize how much the autistic spectrum can relate to themselves and how non-autistic people can enter into the Autistic world. Being an Autistic person means so many things, but their are some non-autistic people who still do not get it. However, there are some non-autistic people who do get it.

This post is going to be a list of what non-autistic people can do to help the Autistic community better self-direct our lives:

1) Stop and think before giving advice or direction to an Autistic person when we have not even asked for the advice or direction
2) Teach any Autistic person from the time they are a child that they run their life
3) Makes sure any Autistic person takes responsibilities for what they do from the time they are a child
4) Always include any Autistic person in conversations about them, always remember ‘Nothing About us, without us’.
5) Never demand any Autistic person is doing something wrong and that they have to do it ‘your’ non-autistic way. Let us be who we are!
6) Allow any Autistic person to identify however we choose, not the way any non-autistic person wants from us, i.e. do not instruct person-first pathology language.
7) Autistic people want to stim to help us through our lives, never say ‘Quiet hands’.
8) Never assume any Autistic person who is echolalic does not have a voice, everyone has their own voice with our own thoughts, ideas, and expressions.
9) We are human, we all have free will, we all have free choices, and any Autistic person is able to live inclusively in the community as long as non-autistic people do not tell an Autistic person how to live their life.
10) Don’t assume any Autistic person does not know, we are more capable of understanding things than non-autistic people assume.
11) Autistic people who do have tics, are able to do things too, we have tics, but it does not mean we are anxious.
12) Autistic people have been stigmatized by the society as a whole by so many other cultures in society, do not make assumptions about our abilities or disabilities.
13) Bullying any Autistic person into silence to speak the way non-autistic people speak is taking away the rights every one in the human race has.
14) Social skills is a human experience everyone learns about each day, so stop insisting Autistic people need to learn social skills from a non-autistic person. Every one needs to learn the real social skills, not the gibberish that is taught to Autistic people every day. (no one is a social skills expert)
15) Autistic people need to know we can set our own boundaries and are taught that everyone has their own space from childhood to becoming an adult.
16) Stop harping and hovering over any Autistic person’s daily life and allow any one to make mistakes. If it feels good to an Autistic person, than work with that so that it works well in society even when an Autistic person who has sensory differences from non-autistic people in society.
17) Do not label any one with how they function, who is it to you as a non-autistic person to label any one as ‘low’ or ‘high’ functioning? Functioning labels are a way to stigmatize and hurt Autistic people.
18) Give us some time for our own life to make our own decisions and preserve self-determination.
19) Being Autistic means we are Human too which means we can decide our own destiny and think critically.
20) Let any Autistic person use AAC (Augmentative and Assistative Communication) when we want to use it to communicate with any one in the community regardless. Communication is key in our life too to allow our voices be heard!

There are probably more, but for now this is good enough!

I know I have not posted in a while, but I have been very busy with my first semester of graduate school at CUNY School of Professional Studies studying Disability studies.

By the way, check out my project from class at the website I created with my classmate, DISQUAKE!!

OUT, J

Accepting Changes in Our Life can be HARD, Let’s do it anyway!

I know that just because someone may be a very conservative or liberal or moderate, does not mean we can not have good communication with them. It really makes life more fun and interesting when we can talk to anyone regardless of how they are and differences they believe in. That’s part of neurodiversity. That’s acceptance and that’s a part of life. We need to accept everyone, everyone’s belief systems, everyone’s identities they have and what they choose for themselves, and accepting everyone’s self-determination of how they want to live their life.

It’s okay for someone to believe in the social model or the medical model, however, we can not tell a person how to live their life since that is not satisfying the requirements of being an individual. Individuality is important as we can not judge any one who decides on either model, on a particular identity, and/or a particular way they choose to live. We can not get angry, we can not get defensive, and we can not say we can not talk to any one who does not agree with us. We have to talk to people, because that is what neurodiversity is all about.

Neurodiversity activists and organizations are not really being very good activists as well as organizations like medical charity researchers and activists too who are also not being open with each other either. However, we all have to engage with each other without being stubborn, without being too hurtful, without being damned if we do or damned if we don’t, and carry on the wayward road moving forward. We need breakthrough with communication barriers that’s been going on for centuries even milleniums.

It does not matter if we disagree or agree. It does not matter if we agree or disagree with our President, agree or disagree with different philosophies or not, and even agree or disagree with the government we belong to or not. We have a government because that is what Americans (and humanity wanted all along) wanted back in 1700’s, so we need to accept that and move on as I hear how so many people seem distracted from their own belief systems and opinions. Our government is not perfect, but no one, thing, or situation is perfect either.

We live in an imperfect world with imperfect people in our community which means we can not escape the interactions with people or situations every moment of every day. We can only thrive at using our communications as going with the flow without trying to be perfect. It overwhelms us to pretend perfectionism exists, but the more we stop trying the more we become perfect. Though, as I said perfectionism does not exist, it exists once we forget that it does exist. Remember nothing is impossible, we all are possible all the time.

While let alone, we can not escape stigmas, stereotypes, and the way other people think too as I talk to someone in the community about this who feels the same way. Sarcasm is hard for many to deal with especially myself who is Autistic, however, sarcasm is something that is supposed to be humor, sometimes dark, sometimes light, but sarcasm indeed. It’s okay not to get or be attuned with sarcasm right away because not everyone understands it. Although sarcasm is just a way of life for some people and part of neurodiversity too.

Neurodiversity is also partly that some people are developmentally delayed in various different ways. Some people don’t go through the different stages of adolescence at the same time as everyone else is supposed to from the way mainstream culture says so. However, we need to realize that everyone is different, everyone is able, and everyone can do whatever it takes to live their life constructively. By living constructively, no one can feel pitied, put down, hurt, stigmatized, stereotyped, and/or feel pain from others.

Neurodiversity can flourish by not allowing ourselves to do this to other people and be open to other people’s perspectives. No one can do things on their own because everyone needs a group to do it together. No organization is perfect either that helps Disabled people in the whole broader disability community including in Autistic culture to help Autistic people. However, we all need to learn together and encourage each other to love every one of our good points so we can cancel out the negatives of everyone we meet. This is how neurodiversity can flourish. So, accept changes and be the community of sharing and caring. Be a good role model for others and others will do good for you.

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Please like and share Autistic Community for Equality Facebook page as this is an initiative that can further grow acceptance, forgiveness, and being less judgmental among each other in the world. The initiative is in it’s infant stage, but we can thrive a lot more as it becomes a bigger part of humanity and the rest of the world. Animals help us thrive too, and we need to realize that we can’t define any one as a friend or an enemy as the people that we are, are constantly learning and building our own way of life. We can not hate, we can only love the incredible people in our communities.

Please check out this website too, AASPIRE (Academic Autistic Spectrum Partnership In Research and Education) which medical charity organizations can learn from as they continue move forward too.

Thank you and please understand the things we all need to do to be an community sharing, loving, and caring for one another. So, reach out and talk to any one you want to talk to. Don’t worry about disagreeing, don’t be stubborn, and think about how we can all be strong together as part of the Animal Kingdom subset called being Human. Everyone needs to open the door toward our successful communications with each other, besides communications is key.

Listen to this song Des’ree “You Gotta Be”:

“You Gotta Be” by Des’ree

Listen as your day unfolds, challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears, stand up and be counted
Don’t be ashamed to cry

You gotta be
You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day

Herald what your mother said
Reading the books your father read
Try to solve the puzzles in your own sweet time
Some may have more cash than you
Others take a different view, my oh my, heh, hey

You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day

Don’t ask no questions, it goes on without you
Leaving you behind if you can’t stand the pace
The world keeps on spinning
You can’t stop it, if you try to
This time it’s danger staring you in the face

Remember, listen as your day unfolds
Challenge what the future holds
Try and keep your head up to the sky
Lovers, they may cause you tears
Go ahead release your fears, my oh my heh, hey, hey

You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day

You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser
You gotta be hard, you gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, you gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day


OUT, J

a poem called “finding acceptance as an original thinker”

finding your voice,
finding your self,
finding how to be authentic,
finding autism,
being Autistic,
claiming d/Disability,
accepting autism,
acceping d/Disability,
accepting being my own Humanity,
being my own Humanity,
being my own thinking of who I am,
and not trying to please
or verify or confirm or
try to anxiously be other
people when others
don’t want me to
be them or confirm with them,
is hard when
others say they are so
brilliant in their
thinking, which
invalidates my own thinking
my own way of being, and
my own voice,
and humanity.
Yet, it shouldn’t,
it can’t,
why do I let it
when others never said
it that way,
maybe because
my thinking is very different than
theirs,
and I have been too afraid to express
my models of thinking
when I am afraid it will be
rejected and seen as stupidity.
Yet, it’s not stupid,
and very far from stupidity.
and, no one ever said it was stupid.
It’s just a different way of
seeing and sensing the world.
the world is very diverse,
but most people have the
same model thinking pattern;
the medical model of disability.
Why?
Because it is the only proven
model…
yet, it’s an not a good model,
very imperfect, very stigmatizing,
very problem based, and
very stereotyping.
The medical model of disability
either needs to be
eradicated or reformed,
but no one cares to do so.
Instead they embrace
this problem model even more and more.
Why?
Because its accepted.
When is the medical model going to go away?
Not sure.
It does not mean medicine should go away,
it just means the model of
how medicine thinks of disability
needs to go away.
And bioethicists need to trust
disability rights activists more,
and remember that
what they as bioethicists have said in
the past about medical model with
regards to disabilities,
seems warped to many,
but its just that
they are not educated enough
about disabilities like autism,
like any other disabilities in the world.
And, yet, the model I dread so much,
is celebrated and embraced by so many.
There needs some kind of
thought,
some kind of reaction
to get people to
know that what
really matters
and
what really is great
is knowing how
the social model of disability
makes life easier and helps
people live better.
The models should be condensed
and updated to show how
the social model respects
humanity, accepts people,
and eases anxieties of who we all are.
It is why we need to
embrace, celebrate, give thanks
to all thought processing models of thinking
to say:
Let’s do this one more time to get it right finally!
without medical model, but
with a better model that fits the picture of
humanity better.
The social model has it’s faults because
most people reject it or don’t think its right.
Well, Let us say:
Accept every thought we have and remember
that we cannot reject anything
that can be a positive contributing
factor our whole life.
yes, we go through emotions our
whole life, but
we we need to remember:
there is a need to know how much
we can take the emotions
and
how much we may need to celebrate who we are
as a means of
celebrating divergent thinking
and
being the person we are meant to be
and
knowing how to control anxieties
when we are very different from society,
we are human, we are different,
and we are one human race
to support and guide each other.
WE need to think about
how medical charity organizations
have always thought about disability
since its not quite right.
autism is really a different way of thinking,
but not a lesser way of thinking,
its a just a different way of
seeing, thinking, perceiving,
sensing,
and being in this world.
But,
we are all human and we are all different.
we can all see things differently, even
though the majority of the world
sees many things the same as
black and white like they always have.
This is where organizations like
Autism Speaks has always seen it
and they are wrong.
The black and white thinking
can be very hurtful from
the way mainstream culture
thinks this way as any other culture
can think black and white too
because that’s humanity too.
yet, everyone argues on
who is more black and white
and who is not.
The Human race can be very black and white,
just look at gender, religions, and government too.
yet, black and white thinking can be good
sometimes when a crime against humanity happens,
and even then, we are all human, and we all
learn to better ourselves
either on here or when its time to cross over.
We are here,
we are there,
we are everywhere.
We are human.
And, being Human means
being different,
and being different is okay.
The only similarity we all have is
that are a part of the Human (Diverse) race.
Let’s accept our own thought process and
accept others thought process as well.
I am starting to do this more and more…

Have a good weekend!

OUT,J