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Submissions are Ready to be Received for the 5th Annual Autistic Artistic Carnival!!

The Guidelines for this year’s Autistic Artistic Carnival is for every Autistic person to submit their works to be shown on this website on Autistic Pride Day, June 18 is being shown now!!!

Any Autistic person from all AGES can submit their work to me from now until June 16 in the form or art, photography, film, poetry, other writings, music, anime, or any inventions/scientific discoveries they have created. If you want to look at the other works from previous Autistic Artistic Carnival’s, please do so to get some ideas!!!

This carnival will ensure that Autistic CREATIVITY and MINDSET get recognized for ACCEPTANCE and UNDERSTANDING of Autistic people of all ages WORLDWIDE!!!!!!

Please send all emails to Email theamazinJ!

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Every Day We Need to give Thanks and Give Back

I have been through the worst, I’ve been through the pains, I’ve even been through many heart aches in my life with people in general. People have failed me, people have been disappointing me, but most importantly I need to remember what I do in my life and what I have in my life of the people who support me. Sometimes I feel my voice, my intelligence, and my way of being are not acknowledged and listened to. Or, is that what it may seem like to me sometimes? I know there are many people who support me in my network including my family.

Thanksgiving is a day that was started that turned around over many years. It first started as a racist holiday against indigenous people. I suppose now people are trying to save Thanksgiving because they are turning it into a day to be grateful for everything we have and will have or had already. However, Thanksgiving should not be a day just to be grateful because we should always be grateful. Thanksgiving instead should be a day for everyone as a community in the world to come together to rejoice, rejuvenate, laugh, smile, and cry together. Sometimes it can be hard to, but we need to try to be around people to show who we are.

It’s a day that the whole community enjoys each other’s company and becomes fulfilled with life. It’s a day we should cherish regardless of it’s racist roots in history because we need to imagine ourselves always being the loving person most of our families tried to push us to become including mine. Love is something we all need. We all love, we all may need kisses, we all may need hugs, and we all need someone to connect to, to be a human being striving for our success.

Traditionally on Thanksgiving, people make huge feasts of food which includes grilling, baking, or frying turkeys. For every food we have, for every drink we drink, for every food and drink leftover, let’s think about the people who don’t have food during this holiday season. What happened to these people? Are they forgotten? Are they lost? Are they gone? The people I am talking about are still human who are not forgotten, not lost, and not gone, they are just here because for whatever reason no one understood them.

Love your family no matter what. Love the incredible things you get from the people around you. Yes, sometimes people in your family may disagree with us even when both sides of the argument think they are right. No matter what there is no right answer to an argument. People differ on issues because of everyone’s life experiences, philosophies, and observations of the world. The problem is that when someone is Disabled, many Non-Disabled people just don’t understand the life of a person who is Disabled. They only guess about what difficulties the disability community feels, and there could be back and forth calling names to each other, but this does not solve solve anything except a bigger battle. We need to accept that everyone has different viewpoints and every one has different things they have to say. No one needs to be silenced while they listen to one side of a story, instead everyone needs to understand the whole side of every story.

There is a lot of unrest in the world right now because of racism, because of ableism, because of ageism, because of sexism, because of heterosexism, because of classism, because of so many other ways of discrimination in the world. Yet, we need to forget about our egos, forget about who does what to who, and just remember that we are a community. A community who loves, a community of amazing individuals in the Human race, who cherishes everything we can ever do in the world. Sometimes it can be hard to drop our guards of anger and drop our fears we may have, but it is a necessary part of being human to be able to let it go to be free and happy.

I hope you love, I hope you are smiling, I hope if you are crying you have someone to hold onto, and if you are angry you can let it go to feel joy. Sometimes it’s hard, sometimes it’s messy, and sometimes we feel we cannot let go, however regardless of what we think we can’t do, we can always make our own choices. If we choose love, we don’t fear. If we choose fear, we become hateful. Most importantly, if we choose fear and anger, then we need to take a deep breath in, to allow are happiness in, to remember what humanity is all about; having community.

I know that many parents fear for their children who may have disabilities. It can be hard, it can be rough, it can be really difficult trying to figure out how to help their Disabled child. People need to remember to look at the many Disabled people who have been successful with the many aspects of their life as a means to ask questions and reach out for support. Disabled people need to listen to these parents so that they can give advice that matters. These parents need to listen to the advice instead of seeming to ignore the words of the disability community speaking up. Disability cultures exist which includes Autistic culture.

More importantly, this happens a lot in the autism community way too much. Parents look to researchers and other professionals for help instead of looking to Autistic people for the help they need. Researchers and other professionals need to work with us by listening to the Autistic people who can really give a better understanding of what it means to be on the autistic spectrum. One can only guess what it’s like if they are not on the spectrum themselves.

We need to be grateful that some researchers and other professionals have started doing this, but everyone also needs to slow down and breathe too. All in all, everyone who isn’t listening and learning to the Disabled including Autistic people, need to start now. In return, everyone can learn about about each other if only they listen to the things to be taught from those who are different from them. Then, only then, people everywhere will understand and accept a cultural difference that is different from who they are.

Hope everyone had a Happy Thanksgiving!!! Please listen, learn, and love the support network you have with the family that loves you no matter what. #lovenotfear

by the way…

This year is #GivingTuesday on December 2! This Giving Tuesday I hope you support The Autistic Self-Advocacy Network because A.S.A.N. really means to me the importance of community and accepting each other’s differences especially the cultural differences of Disability culture and Autistic culture. A.S.A.N. really is a breakthrough in the world because it really means that everyone who is Autistic or have other disabilities can express their voice or feelings of how they feel without being criticized. A.S.A.N. is about teaching the world what it means to understand each other’s cultural differences regardless of what they may be. It teaches everyone to be accepting even when it’s difficult to accept. Most importantly A.S.A.N. really teaches to love and educate people no matter who they are. The more people are educated, the more they will love, the less fearful and angry they become.

There are other organizations too that support Autistic people too. For example, they are Autism Women’s Network (AWN), Ollibean, Thinking Person’s Guide To Autism (TPGA), Association for Autistic Community, Autistic Community for Equality Facebook page, and G.R.A.S.P. (Global and Regional Autism Spectrum Partnership). When we think about cultures like Autistic culture, we need to think about supporting everyone without feeling like we are better than anyone else. We are all Human. We are all different and we are all learning from each other. The Autistic Rights movement only started about less 30 years ago, but we still have a long way to go.

I also trying to seek out funding for graduate school at CUNY. I started this crowdsourcing, to try to open up some doors. If anyone has any ideas for scholarship, please let me know!


OUT, J

Know your Voice, Know your Identities, Know your supports, and Live a Self-Determined Life

An Open Letter to the many primary and secondary educators as well as the many professionals who try to create tokens to Autistic and other Disabled people who they don’t give proper education to own their identities and opinions,

It’s important to create a better way for the Autistic/Disabled children and adolescents of the future adults of the Disability community and the broader community in the world. It’s important as well to create a system where the adults in the Disability community today finally know their voice and their identities count too. People need to develop their own self without any one especially Non-Autistic/Non-Disabled people influencing them that they can’t do much in society. This leads to many of the children eventually living in group homes like many of the Autistic/Disabled adult peers who struggled with the teachers in the school system as well growing up without a chance to learn.

School is an important project for every child growing up. No one should be denied a proper education because many teachers don’t want to develop more patience and spend more time with their students to get them through 12 years of schooling and go to college. When I watch the amount of people entering into the caretaker world for Autistic/Disabled adults I noticed many of the Non-disabled people who work with them even some parents, don’t preserve self-determination. Sadly, I start realizing how the whole primary and secondary education system pretty much sucks in the United States. I am not just talking about the public schools, but the fact that these children are also going to Residential Treatment program schools as well that really are segregative and do suck!! It’s not even just the Disability community which is denied proper education, but many other cultures of people too who don’t get the education they need. This all leads to mental health issues and addiction.

Many educators seem to only care about the most gifted people who are usually non-Disabled or non-Autistic people to finish high school and go to college. It’s only if any student becomes a good advocate for themselves during public high school that they actually do succeed to lead their own life through college eventually earning a decent living. Instead many Autistic/Disabled people wind up going to Adult day hab centers and group homes because society gave up on them. It is a very sad situation that many of these educators and other professionals do not help my many young peers in the Autistic/Disability community to learn responsibility in order to live a self-determined life.

When these people eventually do go to group homes, day hab, and even work in sheltered workshops earning a dollar an hour in some cases, they are treated like children, and act out like children, always acting out negatively. They are considered to be ‘behavior problems’ in society because no one taught them any better about responsibilities while attending their school years from kindergarten through 12th grade. And yet, most of these people have sensory meltdowns too that were always misunderstood as tantrums instead.

Society graduated many of these people with a IEP diploma which just states that they attended school without earning grades. Moreover, these people are told to learn social skills in adult classes when these types of skills should have been taught in public elementary school with the Non-disabled students. Most of these people can’t read or do not even know what it means to understand what they read, to write an essay, to do simple math, to sign their name, or to even know how they want to represent themselves in society.

Our society created a system where Non-Autistic/Non-Disabled people will speak for many of them in the Disability community no matter what the situation entails including telling the world how they should be identified as. Many of these students in the Disability community are never given real choices because many people do not want them to be educated in school and earn a decent wage that can allow them to have independence too. Their education is pushed away from them while they are pushed to agency businesses to take care of them for the rest of their lives. Yes, many of us in the Disability community do need supports, and sometimes agencies help with these supports, but the supports should be given to us as an accommodation to live a self-determined life. We live in an Interdependent world, none of us are totally independent.

There are some people, but not many who’ve been considered lucky to not let this happen to them. However, luck was more of a determination to advocate for ourselves including some non-verbal self-advocates who fought for their rights for supports and independence. Many reached out and others continue to reach out to advocate against a system that society really pushes many Autistic and other Disabled people into: not having their own voice and identities. It’s important to always educate, teach self-advocacy, teach social skills, and teach that it’s okay to identify ourselves the way any one wants to throughout school and adulthood. Most importantly, it’s important to teach social skills in elementary school as well as teaching sexuality and gender identities to everyone no matter if the student is disabled or not. Society is so afraid of teaching any one who is not the so-called normal person in society.

We are all gifted, we can all live our life the way we want and need to, and we can all learn to be responsible self-determined adults with the supports we need along the way. Society needs to accommodate the Disability community with the many sensory and physical things that we need to be accommodated for so that we can live our life like any other person can. In the professional world, Social Workers read in their code of ethics about self-determination all the time, but many Social Workers do not practice this code of ethics unless it is to get a Autistic/Disabled person to obtain their benefits from society as a whole. Benefits are good and are needed for us including myself, but self-determination must always be preserved too. There needs to be balance between the benefits the Disability community receives or will receive, and self-determination.

When society sees a person like myself advocating for myself and working toward my goals of self-determination, they only want to create a token so that this person will speak like Non-Disabled people yet will still be considered Disabled by society. If society wants to really listen to the Disability community, they will need to allow us to speak our minds the way we feel and want to represent ourselves with our identities. It is unfair for the Disability community and most importantly it is an unfair education system for the many people who have been and are in the elementary and secondary school systems. It’s probably why bullying persists in our schools. Society needs to change. Society needs to create an education system where everyone has a chance to live a decent life and learn the responsibilities to live our lives eventually with wages that aren’t sub-minimum.

Don’t wait until they become adults because then it may already be too late! Please do all you can to educate everyone no matter who they are. We need to make the United States better than it is right now. For those educators who have begun this already, I say thank you to you, but help me create any teacher in every school to maintain any student to live their adult life with supports and self-determination.

A few people have tried to make me a token in the past, but it’s important to fight for our own voice to be heard not to be a token. I teach self-advocacy at a part time job, and will continue to teach these basic self-advocacy skills so everyone eventually will know their voice, their own opinions, and their own identities which will always be cherished.

Thank you for reading and hope everyone understands what I say!

OUT, J

The Importance of Being A Role Model for Others

Many people need role models to be able help facilitate and empower their life. A role model we seek out, helps us build who we are by giving us the opportunity to reach for our proudest moments. There are many things we look for in a role model. A role model needs to be a responsible person who knows who they are, how they want to be represented, knows how to take care of their own needs, and knows how to get what they want. It’s important for a role model to be able to set and enforce their boundaries for themselves whether it is a verbal, non-verbal, or a physical boundary we set for each other. It’s not good to have no boundaries because other people can easily take advantage of us.

By setting boundaries as I am learning to do every day, we balance between what we want the public to do for us and how we want to have privacy. Many people in society tend to overstep their boundaries to misrepresent others, and influence their peers about what they think we are or should be doing. Many people also talk about others without the presence of other people around without giving the other person a chance to respond. A good role model would respect boundaries, know the meaning of YES or NO, listen to other people’s preferences, being honest about their actions, be accommodating to others, and be compassionate. No one can dictate what the other person should or needs to do.

There is a way for everyone to interact in the world expressing their individuality. Some people say that not making eye contact and flapping in public is distracting to other people. There are many people who absolutely need to flap, rock, spin, etc because of the way they are with the environment around them. Although, people who can make eye contact and don’t stim, need to remember that it does not mean they aren’t or can’t be role models to others.

Being a role model is a challenge for many people and is a life long process. Not everyone is a role model everyone can look up to, but it’s important to try hard to be an important person in someone else’s life. Accommodating people is important with how we interact with the world and has importance in knowing that people care. By accommodating, we need to listen, I need to listen. I am learning every day to listen and accommodate other people. Life is a double helix of communication. I’m on one side, and the other person is on the other side while we are all attached to a line. We all represent different colors on the double helix representing our individual humanity.

Our first role model is our own parents. However, not everyone I have met consider their parents role models for them. Although the parents we are born from are who we seek to be our role models first. Parents are there to teach us about love. Love is important because if we don’t know what love is, then we become lost. There are 2 ways to love: by physical intimacy with a romantic partner or by showing compassion to the other person through embracing the other person’s life. We listen and help the person because we want to be a role model for that person to spread love. Loving a person is about showing them that we are there for them. That we care and we adore every aspect of who they are. We want to help guide them in to their life to be a role model and productive member of society. Sometimes people or organizations suggest things to others because the majority of people are doing what they suggest. We need to follow our path, our vision, and to be able to glide into our future. Sometimes it’s not the most traveled path where everyone goes, but it’s our path that matter for each person.

Respect individuality and love the person for who they are because some day they will pay it forward by teaching compassion, love, and honesty for what humanity is.

I am on the right path now and can’t wait to learn while just starting school!

OUT, J

Always Remember It’s Okay to Feel what we Feel as Individuality

Being who I am, I am easily swayed to think one way or the other. Organizations like Autism Speaks and the media know how to easily manipulate people to think their opinion is the right opinion. No opinion is wrong, but we need to be more intuitive as a World Wide theme. Are psychiatrists seeking a cure for autism? Many just say they are seeking to help the individuals live their life better. Helping is good, but no person or group of people can overtly talk against a certain culture to eradicate them. Society needs to give everyone their choice of living their life without suggesting or influencing with the most highly visible mainstream media. I hear people say we should switch to the Social Model of Disability, however I feel that there should be a balance between both models. I do believe some people need medication, but not everyone. There are people who believe in medication because those people feel they need to change behaviors. Many people who have severe anxiety, obsess, have severe depression, hallucinate, think with delusions, thought insertions, and/or feel unbalanced with moods. Reality is what we create for ourselves, so a person needs to create a reality that fits them best as a individual.

A person with unbalanced moods like in people with Manic-Depression can be very creative. However, what is the fine line between creations a person who is Bipolar does and how the person can live a functional life with no severe depressive or manic states? If we didn’t have these types of conditions or even autism, would we be able to be creative or be inventive? Are these emotions really helping us make the world a better place? It’s important to remember to give everyone the attention they deserve, but guiding them to not take it to extremes. Although we need creative and inventive thinking!

Life is a common core of who we are and what we want to be. There are many people these days in my observations who have manipulative, narcissistic egos that do not correlate with being human. ‘Selfies’ have become extremely popular these days sort of the most popular thing where people are simply obsessed with how they look and show there face to the world. Intuition is having the capacity for love, understanding, and compassion for everyone in the way we come in contact with the communities we live in. It seems as if simply ‘being human’ has lost it’s image of intuitive feelings because many people generally are obsessed with themselves.

We are all born as a small baby who constantly learns. Intuition is taught at a very early age. Everyone is intuitive, everyone has empathy, and everyone can learn to be the person they want to become one day. Although in life, there is not always enough support of everyone to be able to become that Adult they want to be. That is when emotions and feelings swirl inside of a person where anger rises, fear scares us, or pain makes us cry depending on the situation. Any one in the disability community has needs and wants like those in the non-disabled community. People need a connection from a person who can teach them to become the person they always wanted to be. Unfortunately, even when becoming that person, we are still a bunch of swirling emotions/feelings because that’s what being human really means.

Once we find ourselves, secure our mission, and balance our emotions is when we can move on to the next level. May be being Autistic or having any disability is a gift where it’s supposed to teach everyone else to be more intuitive. However, may be those like myself who are Autistic or have another disability, don’t need connection so much as to needing to help others have connection. Society needs to give Disabled people more credit and not treat us like we are a tragedy. There are many people on the autistic spectrum who were never given the chance to speak up, be their own person, and learn in school. Some of society gives up on them because they feel some people are not worth it.

There are many others who actually do teach any one. However, it’s not as many as there are. There are many different ways to teach a person and the education system needs to gear more toward every body, not just a standard normal way. Because we all can teach each other.

To those people who suggest recovery or cure of autism, they need to remember what they are going to be eradicating. If we eradicate autistic culture like most of society is suggesting, then we are going to rid the world of disability, things we are enjoying, emotions, feelings, pain, and learning more about humanity. When watching the movie, The Giver, and reading the book too, I am noticing that if we wipe out what we are trying to delete, we no longer feel anything, be creative, and invent.

It’s time for society to remember that it’s okay to feel, to have pain, and to have a disability. Thus, disability is a part of the human experience and so is autism as a disability too! Don’t ever forget any one can easily fall into and out of the disability community at any point in their life. Being Autistic is a culture that needs accepting too as well as all disabilities!

OUT, J

A Poem and a Challenge for you from Drive Mom Crazy Blog

Life bleeds,
life burns,
life scars,
life rejoices,
life reoccurs,
life sulks,
life smiles,
life rises,
life declines,
but most importantly,
life emerges from the distance
as either a rising up to the sky
or a rebirth and rejuvenation to
live it all over again.
Life cries with weeping tears,
life misses other people,
but life also brings the spirit
to all of us to live our life.
I know the passing of great people
in our lives is saddest when
we can’t seem to fathom why?
Why them and not US?
Why them and not I?
Our mission is one
and our mission is whole,
our mission is guided,
and our mission feels fiction sometimes,
but we need to shut our eyes,
we need to gaze into the light and remember,
remember why we are here, and why we are there,
and remember we will return one day
knowing we changed the world, we changed ourselves,
and we changed from hate to love.
Filling our beauty,
filling our dignity,
filling our soul only with every
ounce of energy to live our life
our life to the fullest it can be,
only gives us the matter of how
we live, how we rise, and how we fall
into the cycle or not.
Our deepest sympathies regard us
as the most engaging,
the most intriguing,
and the most knowledge
of what it feels like
to be in each other’s shoes.
Life rewards us for what
we need, what we want,
and what we gave to others.
Sometimes it takes one person,
one group,
one situation to help us
know that we are who we are
and everything happens for reasons
we may know or may find out before we reach our pinnacle
or after we’ve reached the pinnacle moving onto
the other side of what we have never imagined before.
Imagination is simple: Believe in anything you want
to believe, but ultimately believe with immense probability
and little suspicion that everything will happen the way
you want it to happen.
Love the beautiful person you are, love the people in your life,
and most definitely love the creative story you present
to the world.
Other than that, we own ourselves, our identity,
our intelligence, our creativity and imagination,
and definitely our experience with the world.

Let’s immeasurably succeed giving support to those who are struggling the most to succeed because in a nutshell, we our a large community split up into millions of smaller communities. In the end, we are a DIVERSE Human race with a NEURODIVERSE pathways and our different ways of living in the world. Splitting up the people and segregating into different societies while ultimately destroying cultures can not happen, but is happening anyway.
Whatever you are and wherever you come from, we still need to love! Life needs to fulfill it’s greatest vision of hope, love, and community connections. We connect as human beings, but we all disconnect at the same time. I am just needing to imagine a world where Autistic culture or any other culture can feel okay in a world where people are looking for a normal that does not exist. Because in the end, we all need to be more patient, tolerant, and accepting of everyone.

My challenge to you:

1) Help 1 person a day for 4 hours a day for 7 days
2) Don’t accept money or gifts, but pay it forward to another person to do the same as you
3) Teach someone to read, to write, to communicate effectively their way of communicating, or mentor what you have known while learning from them too
4) Spend the 8th day recouping, refueling, and know what you did to make a difference
5) write about it or draw a artistic expression of how it made you feel
6) Always remember what disability and ability does for our humanity, it creates it!!!
7) Then, tell organizations like Autism Speaks to do the same instead of doing what they do now in greed for their salaries, and fundraising for more research and raising their salaries.

Rest in Peace, our amazing talent, Robin Williams, you were an extraordinary talent who inspired me and so many others:)

Sorry it’s been so long since my last post…

OUT, J