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The Importance of living a Self-Determined Life

Self-determined language is very important for any one to know that any one can identify themselves the way any one feels comfortable with. Self-determination is also a way to be involved with our own life, our own feelings, our own conversations about us, and not involved with anything any one influences us about.

Emotional abuse can hurt a lot when people turn to us when saying or referring to our way of being as if we are not even human or we need to take medications to pass for a particular specific person’s individuality. This does not allow us to be our own individualistic self. Though, sometimes some people need to take medications regardless because of the ableism or emotional abuses affected by the way life immensely becomes too overwhelming. When this happens, any of us can become very anxious and seem disturbed since we are seen as being out of control. However, society creates this in individuals from the standards of a general normal that they want everyone to pass as.

We need to just live our life through the way of who we are, what we individually believe about who we are, and what we feel about our own life. This allows us to know that our life is what we want self-determinedly.

What we feel and what we do, is only a part of our being. When we move forward, we bring on not only what we want in our present situation, we bring on the past life we have lived too as a continuous spectrum of time and diversity in the human race.

We need to Remember our mission through what we are here for by what we can do for ourselves. The community needs to always remember the identities we all want for ourselves individually as part of self determination.

As an Autistic who also is very different from the general mainstream norm, society needs to understand that individuals are really individualistic as part of what makes us a part of the human race. The human race is exceptionally individualistic which is so diverse, so unique, so simple yet complex, so continuous though building on each other like legos, and everyone really is a spectrum of who everyone really can be. As an individual person, if we meet one human being we’ve have only met one human being.

While any one lives on this planet today, we can all think it’s hell or heaven depending on our experiences with our feelings while being involved with family, friends, and the broader world community. It depends on the feelings now that we feel before our body becomes too old; thinking of negative or positive feelings that determines our destiny. That’s what makes up heaven!

Everyone has their own spirit and their own feelings for our own space (or boundaries) to protect our own self of how we were first created in the world. This way, no one could ever feel like they can barge through who we are and our identity. The many things we built up for ourselves, makes up our own life in the world that we want to contribute to, to become the person we are destined to become.

Sometimes it takes a long time (as it did for me and for others) to think about the things we are destined for as we become way too influenced in our life to think of ourselves. Humanity is beautiful. It does not have to be too stressful, anxiety provoking, or even a way to pass for someone else’s normal. It’s who we are, what we want, and how we want to live it.

Self-determination is what builds our life now for even the future of our own
self-determination. It’s our own choice and no one else’s. We decide through our own spirituality of what makes us human, but ultimately what makes us a part of the universe.

If we make or give good, we get or receive good back!

Let’s make it a good life 😄

Love to my family, friends, and the broader world communities,


TheamazinJ

FOCUS On The Present & How to Focus on Your Life

The 8 ways to Focus on the Present and How to Focus on your Life:::

1) How do you relate to people

2) How do you function in the world

3) How do you do your work

4) How do you interact and react to other people

5) Nothing about us, without us!!!

6) How I look physically

7) How Hygiene helps

8) How to focus on safety and security

These 8 practices are for everyone to remember and practice. Please always remind yourself of this and help others to know this too if they are struggling!

Find the connections you need to live your life the way YOU want to!!!

OUT, J

The Importance of Being A Role Model for Others

Many people need role models to be able help facilitate and empower their life. A role model we seek out, helps us build who we are by giving us the opportunity to reach for our proudest moments. There are many things we look for in a role model. A role model needs to be a responsible person who knows who they are, how they want to be represented, knows how to take care of their own needs, and knows how to get what they want. It’s important for a role model to be able to set and enforce their boundaries for themselves whether it is a verbal, non-verbal, or a physical boundary we set for each other. It’s not good to have no boundaries because other people can easily take advantage of us.

By setting boundaries as I am learning to do every day, we balance between what we want the public to do for us and how we want to have privacy. Many people in society tend to overstep their boundaries to misrepresent others, and influence their peers about what they think we are or should be doing. Many people also talk about others without the presence of other people around without giving the other person a chance to respond. A good role model would respect boundaries, know the meaning of YES or NO, listen to other people’s preferences, being honest about their actions, be accommodating to others, and be compassionate. No one can dictate what the other person should or needs to do.

There is a way for everyone to interact in the world expressing their individuality. Some people say that not making eye contact and flapping in public is distracting to other people. There are many people who absolutely need to flap, rock, spin, etc because of the way they are with the environment around them. Although, people who can make eye contact and don’t stim, need to remember that it does not mean they aren’t or can’t be role models to others.

Being a role model is a challenge for many people and is a life long process. Not everyone is a role model everyone can look up to, but it’s important to try hard to be an important person in someone else’s life. Accommodating people is important with how we interact with the world and has importance in knowing that people care. By accommodating, we need to listen, I need to listen. I am learning every day to listen and accommodate other people. Life is a double helix of communication. I’m on one side, and the other person is on the other side while we are all attached to a line. We all represent different colors on the double helix representing our individual humanity.

Our first role model is our own parents. However, not everyone I have met consider their parents role models for them. Although the parents we are born from are who we seek to be our role models first. Parents are there to teach us about love. Love is important because if we don’t know what love is, then we become lost. There are 2 ways to love: by physical intimacy with a romantic partner or by showing compassion to the other person through embracing the other person’s life. We listen and help the person because we want to be a role model for that person to spread love. Loving a person is about showing them that we are there for them. That we care and we adore every aspect of who they are. We want to help guide them in to their life to be a role model and productive member of society. Sometimes people or organizations suggest things to others because the majority of people are doing what they suggest. We need to follow our path, our vision, and to be able to glide into our future. Sometimes it’s not the most traveled path where everyone goes, but it’s our path that matter for each person.

Respect individuality and love the person for who they are because some day they will pay it forward by teaching compassion, love, and honesty for what humanity is.

I am on the right path now and can’t wait to learn while just starting school!

OUT, J