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Being Autistic and finding love can be tricky

Disclaimer: A post for Adults about love among Adults:

It’s good to fall in love with someone you want to be with even though I am still searching. Although it is also good to take it slow with baby steps as to not play it too hard. Love is in the air all the time, but we need to understand what love is. Most of us do understand what love is, but a lot of us do not. It’s a complicated process.

Being in love for an Autistic person means many questions being drawn to us. A lot of times we act, think, and do things quicker when we find love. Autistic people need love too, but we need to slow that thinking down in order to enjoy it. It’s a challenge for us. That’s why falling in love is so difficult. Either being with another Autistic or a Neurotypical person, it probably would be easier for a lot of people on the Autistic spectrum to be involved with another Autistic person. Why? Because Neurotypical people tend to not understand what it’s like to be Autistic and winds up being a bigger challenge for us. Either fall in love or live in solitude, that’s the choice we all need to make.

It’s hard for a lot of Autistic people to be open minded about love when comes to our special interests or religion. Though we are less judgmental! I feel though we fall in love very easily because we are open minded about being with just about anyone that we feel we can relate to. We are very open minded in that sense, but when it comes down to thinking about our special interests our thinking turns black and white. We love to love just like anyone else. However we need to be conscious of our black and white thinking. Just because a person dates, does not mean the two will get married at least not right away. And what is marriage anyway? Well, it’s when 2 people fall in love, engage in each other’s intimacy, and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. Anyone can marry anyone. There is someone for everyone. It’s just a matter of knowing who you want to marry. It’s a process of love, finding it, embracing it, spreading it, and spending time with the love of who you want to be with. 2 people should not be expelled from society because they want to marry. That would be ridiculous if society expelled anyone for falling in love and wanting to marry!

Love can be very tricky for an Autistic person at large. Though it’s important to keep an open mind about meeting anyone because you never know who you can fall in love with as a single person. Religion is man-made interpretations of what spirituality really is. Being in the universe, we need to feel the love around us because we need to eventually know that we contributed positively to the universe as a whole to build our own heaven. If we don’t, we go down the black hole in to nothingness where we engage in negative feelings.

So when do we find love? We will find love only when we engage with someone who we are willing to fill our hearts up without thinking about who and what the person is without thinking about why we are in love. The universe puts two people together to fall in love for a reason to show what love is. You can either take it or leave it, but never regret what the universe does. Every thing happens for a reason. Whether we fall in love or not, depends on what the universe wants from us. Not everyone is meant to fall in love supposedly, but everyone needs some kind of love to feel worthwhile and knowing that they are a part of the universe too. Otherwise the person will not feel loved and begin to hate the world. There are different ways to engage in love. Most people express it with sex while some others express love with their feelings and passions.

My advice for all those Autistic people particularly the adult population who are seeking love is to remind yourself to take 1 step at a time always slowing down the mind to not think of impulsive reactions like telling another person how much you love them. Love can trick anyone to not take it slowly. We need to let nature take it’s course to allow love between 2 people to develop the intimacy to lead up to the physical parts. Sex and sexuality are the most engaging parts of human nature. Expressing sexuality is important for anyone to not be afraid of, though sex itself is the most intimate part of what two human beings can do together. Neurotypical people tend to go straight to the sex without thinking about getting to know a person. However, sex is very powerful and the strongest intimacy two people can engage in. It can also be very painful for both people involved because either one or both of the people involved can get emotionally, physically, or spiritually hurt. What I mean by physical pain is sex can be very uncomfortable, confusing, and deeply painful touching between 2 people. Sex is not to played around with and people need to respect others first before engaging in sex. It’s so important for both parties involved in sexual activity whether a Neurotypical or Autistic person as a whole human race, to know that sex is only fun when you know who you want to love, if you choose it. Though it’s not for everyone which is why there is Asexuality.

Hope you have a great weekend!!


OUT, J

Drive Mom Crazy Blog: celebrates 1000 Ausome Things #AutismPositivity2013

As Autism Acceptance Month comes to a close today, we need to end with a bang with this Flash Blog of Autism Positivity while getting ready for Positivity Day sometime in May for everyone! And, Don’t forget about the Autistic Artistic Carnival on Drive Mom Crazy Blog coming this June 18, Autistic Pride Day!!! Read the Featured post on the front of my blog :)

For me, Autism is a positive experience, but this Flash blog alert is for everyone who needs to feel that too.

Remember this from all those Autistic people as a whole feeling unwanted, insecure, or unaccepted:

Des’ree “You Gotta Be” song,

You gotta be bad, you gotta be bold
You gotta be wiser, you gotta be hard
You gotta be tough, you gotta be stronger
You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm
You gotta stay together
All I know, all I know, love will save the day

Being Positive about being on the Autistic Spectrum is important, it’s essential for self-esteem, and not allowing anyone to bully us to think we are nothing.

I love being on the Autistic spectrum because I am different than the Neurotypical way of thinking. Thinking differently is okay, but Neurotypicals can be cruel.

That is what this Flash blog is about!

Here is a list of what makes being on the Autistic spectrum wonderful for me:

1) Being non-judgmental
2) Being willing to accept things NT’s find hard to accept
3) Stimming through exhilaration, anxiety, and FUN!!
4) Having my own sense of enjoyment by myself without always needing to be with someone else
5) Deep pressure ***HUGS***
6) Focusing on a TASK that I am wanting to succeed doing!
7) Being able to move forward knowing I have helped myself and others!
8) Being creative and not caring what others think!
9) Just being my own Likable self and a peacemaker (you know it!)
10) Always willing to LEARN new positive things and be who I am!!

Positivity Day is approaching us soon…

Always remember Being Autistic is a different way of being, feeling, and expressing oneself.

It’s time to fit the picture to allow the Autism Acceptance decade to lift all of our spirits and believe in who and what we can do. We need to keep those services going throughout the lifespan to ensure interdependency for every human being especially those Autistic people who seem too dependent at this time. Remember to pay it forward whether you are Autistic or not to an Autistic person of any age who needs that help to follow their dreams to success. There is no reason why the Neurotypical thinking should be the majority all the time, everyone has the their way to live in this world and it’s time to finally see the two way street. As 1 human being walks down the street, another one walks down in the opposite direction…take the initiative to acknowledge them and say “You are a Superstar!” It may be hard at first, but in the end you will find greater success becoming a brighter star.

“I am who I am and that’s all that I am, I am Popeye the Sailor man!” Just remember this and accept. By accepting, you accept your life how it has been to be able to grow and allowing others to grow as well for greater acceptance.

We journey through life to be able to live how we want to live knowing the ethical standards for human beings and the entire biosphere. Never disrespect and hurt, it will just come back to you, two-fold for any one.

Happy Autism Acceptance Decade!!!


Be cool always,

J

Up Where We Belong toward Autism Acceptance

Stimming is something I do too. It makes me feel happy. I have always done it and still do to make me feel happy. It’s a relaxing thing to do when when I am feeling over stimulated, over anxious, and sensory overloaded. Part of stimming for me is flapping, spinning, and finding an area where I can apply deep pressure on to my body like on my bed or the carpet in my room. I have done this my whole life. Stimming is short for self-stimulation and is a key trait for the Autistic spectrum.

Professionals and other people may feel this is inappropriate for society, however those people need to understand what diversity is all about. Every one is different and stimming for a person on the Autistic spectrum is something we need to do to comfort us.
When talking to some people and professionals who think stimming relates to unpredictable behavior, they need to get inside a brain of an Autistic person to understand the purpose of the stim.

Even if we have to use ear muffs to focus on another person because otherwise we can’t focus discreetly from the outside distractions, than let us to be able to focus.

It’s almost the end of Autism Acceptance Month, but we still are in the Autism Acceptance decade. The decade where people will accept diversity, human diversity of cognitive abilities and biodiversity itself. Next time you yourself disproves diversity, remember this: It’s time for a positively diverse society. The time is now for everyone’s positive talent(s) for society to be accepted, appreciated, respected, and given a chance to prove to the world the positive differences we can make in this world. There is so much positive things all of us can do for society, yet most of us are not accepted or appreciated of what we can do.

Helping others is important and not helping is no journey at all. Outreach is so important in paying it forward. By paying it forward, we embrace life, it fills us up with joy, and we make a difference. Every one’s journey toward the acceptance of others, and the most important part of accepting ourselves is an experience unique to us. Yet, we journey thousands of miles every day in our mind and back to the outside world to believe we can do it, we can be successful, and we can make that positive difference we are all meant to be doing. Life spins us, lifts us, pounds us to the ground, and cracks us up with laughter every second of our life even makes us cry, however no body is guaranteed to be wrong. Yet, Autism Acceptance is so important for diversity.

Finding ourselves and finding our comfort zones is important. That is why stimming is an important part for people on the Autistic spectrum. It makes us a culture of people that change the world from the Neurotypical thinking. Neurotypical thinking from a typical person without autism shows society there is only one way to survive in this world to understand the NT taboos “in’s and out’s” in society created by the majority NT community. It’s very important to have ethical standards set in place for every one to know and understand. Neurotypicals and Autistics (as a whole) need to meet somewhere in the middle for understanding and peace. People study us in research to be able to understand us. May be people who research us should spend more time in the community getting to know us and getting inside of our heads instead of using MRI technology or other tests to better understand Autistic people as a whole.

There are different ways an Autistic person (as a whole) is, in society. Some are nonverbal. Some have seizures. Most of us stim. Most of us have sensory issues. Some have echolalia. While a lot of us are not nonverbal, some are selectively mute, some are highly verbal, and some have other issues like being face blinded. People on the Autistic spectrum are like the Neurotypical spectrum because we all experience what is, humanity. We all experience being happy, sad, angry, mad, crazy, frustrated, depressed, wander, etc. Whether you are on the Autistic spectrum or you are not, people on the Autistic spectrum like myself express those feelings differently. Feeling awkward in society because you are not like the majority of the people around you does not mean you are not up where you belong. Feel the gift(s) you have to have a positive experience in the world to make a positive difference in this world. Remember this: Don’t let any one pull you down or push you around, Move Forward to be the best you can be to make the changes you want to see in yourself and society for acceptance of diversity. Out of the darkness and into the Sun, I see the rainbow bursting through with diversity everywhere. Whether you are on the autistic spectrum or not, any person can do things to be positive productive members of society. You just need to find your niche, work hard to build it, outreach to others, and pay it forward!

BTW, Positivity Day is approaching us once again, so get ready for an Extraordinary Positivity Day!

Here are a few lyrics to Jennifer Warnes and Joe Cocker’s song “Up Where We Belong”

Love lift us up where we belong
Where the eagles cry
On a mountain high
Love lift us up where we belong
Far from the world we know
Up where the clear winds blow

It’s been a while since I have been posting. I just wanted to tell my DMC readers that I am here still and building up what I need to say. Building myself more to outreach to others on the Autistic spectrum to build Autistic culture as a whole! Got to get moving to show y’all more of what I do with my art.


OUT, J

A Future Ahead of Us to Think About Helping Others

Here it is: I am really excited about quite a few things in the coming months. First, I’d like to say I am really excited about this year’s Autistic Artistic Carnival in June featuring on my blog! Second, I am really excited to be helping so many Autistics out there lately and helping out schools teach Autistics. Third, I am so happy that I am getting myself out there in public reaching out to others! Finally, I can’t wait to get more done with Community Alliance for Ethical Treatment of Youth (CAFETY).

Here is something I just wrote:

A future filled with concern,
A future filled with love,
A future filled with determination, self-determination,
A future filled with helping every one on the Autistic spectrum
live a better life, a life where they can have their own Autistic space,
A life filled with drive,
A life with so much love and a great sense of desire
to make sure people are giving toward outreach.
A life of giving is more than a life of taking.
A life of working is better than a life of sitting around
wondering what will be, what will be is in your destiny.
Fate will determine what you are, but
you must look for the winks of destiny that will
help to get you through it in the most
trying of times.
We live for the moment to be thrilled,
We live for the moment to be wow’d,
We live for the moment to tell our story
the way we want to hear it, live it.
We live to be positive.
We get moments to reach out and touch,
but most importantly we get moments
for Acceptance!

(It’s been a while since my last post, but I just wanted to tell every one that I am still here. As I wait to create something for the Online Autistic Artistic Carnival!)

OUT, J

The Time is Now for Diversity Matters!

Is it right for society to Light it up Blue on April 2 this year? or, Shouldn’t we all Light it Up FULL Spectrum all month long for Autism Acceptance Month or better yet all year long?

From April 1 to April 30 this year, I expect every one to come in full circle to use your Light Sabers to knock down the Blues and pull out the full spectrum of colors representing diversity. It’s time for people to listen to Autistic and Disabled fellows from across the board in order to know what we want, what we can do for society and show the rest of society what we are capable of doing.

There are so many people who are able to function that so many people think are unable. It’s very sad and heart breaking to know this is true. However, we have to keep on fighting and keep on spreading our voices far and wide.

The colors which stand for Human Diversity:

Red which means our blood

Orange which means our sun

Yellow which means our Gold

Green which means our Ground

Blue which means our emotions

Violet which means our Beauty

Every one feels, every one gives, every one takes, and every one loves. The most important part is to understand why diversity matters!

Spread your color which represents you. Spread it out far and wide through April for Acceptance, Understanding, and Love. Eventually every day of every year, we will show the love for Human and biodiversity.

Whether your color represents Brown, Blue, Yellow, Orange, Red, Magenta, Tan, or mixtures of colors you like, etc, prove to society your voice matters and your voice counts. Don’t let others speak for you and don’t let society crumble all over you. It’s time to speak and a time to be you.

Think of your life as a means of voicing your concerns for yourself and help those who are non-verbal to be able to voice their concerns too for themselves. Every one has a voice no matter what! Some people like one thing while others like something else. You can not allow someone to like everything you think they want to like.

It’s time for fun and time for the things that bring us joy. Support an Autistic person wherever you are and wherever you go anytime of year!

We are able and society needs to understand pity solves nothing. Pity only makes any person to feel down and feel insecure. We know when to say ‘No’ and when we want something that makes us feel good. Sensory information processes through us differently and Self-stimulation (Stimming) like flapping, rocking, spinning, etc gives us the feeling of exhilaration. There’s a time for you and a time for us. Now is the time for All of Us!!! All of us giving to each other the gift to be able to listen to each other each and every one us to know what every one wants. No more debating and no more cursing each other. It’s time for respect. It’s time for courage to listen to every one. It may be hard for an Neurotypical person to listen, but WE all have to listen to what any one is saying. Every voice counts even if it means that the United States Congress who really need to listen to every voice too!

It’s time for Human Diversity to flourish throughout the world no matter what and who you are that represents you to spread the biosphere of diversity around the world everywhere so that any living animal counts too!

The time is now to prove to society that Diversity Counts MOST!!!

OUT, J