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Something to realize in the state of things

I will be posting something tonight some time, but in the meantime there is something to realize in the state of things. We currently have a society which has multitude of opinions. Every one has something to say and has a different way of doing things. I don’t know what is right and what is wrong, but what I can say is every body seems to think they are right.

Anyway, please be informed to be objective…

Have a great day and posting soon,


Listen UP!

There are lot’s of things in the world today which are going to change.  The world is going to see the next President of the United States of America.  Some people are going to feel hurt while others are going to be excited.  You can’t please everyone.  We just need to vote for the Presidential Candidate we feel can be a LEADER not a President.

Leadership is important.

The Declaration of Independence is an invaluable document for us all to read.  Think of what your rights are and think who can help all of us the most.  Do not just think of somebody just because they are a POW or a War Hero.

Leaders can lead us in to anything.

Take a Stand,


Topic: When to talk and when not to talk, that is the question…

This is a topic that is very interesting and will stir up a discussion of comments. When is it right to talk and when do you give somebody you know the space they deserve.   The other question is How long do you give the person space till they want to talk again.

The idea of it all is to not let come to the point where a friend or a person you know very well has to tell you listen, man, I need my space. And then they never talk to you ever again.

How many of you had to tell somebody that and never talk to that somebody ever again?

I have had to do it and I am sure many of you had to do the same.

Lord knows that there is a time to be by yourself and there is a time to be with people.  You can not have it just one way or the other, you must have Balance.

Balance takes time to develop since we are not born to be balanced in life.  We must go through trials and errors before we make that determination for ourselves.

Take for instance when we first  are born there are so many things we do not know that the only thing we know to do is scream and cry or be quiet when we are not screaming and crying.

Then, depending how you learn, some people grow up faster than others. Some people learn more emotions and talking at a very early age while others talk at a much much later stage in life closer to the age of 3 , 4, or 5 to say their first few words.

We watch when we are not talking and by watching we observe and listen.  Most people like to hear themselves talk and not observe.

My grandma tells me she can never be alone and always needs to be with someone ever since she was a little girl.   How could that be?  How could a single person never have the strength to be alone with their own thoughts observing other people or observing nature’s life just like Henry David Thoreau did.

My grandma ain’t no Transcendalist, more like a person who is the opposite.

You can be a loner, you can be a people person, or you can have balance between the two.

Take for instance the fact that people talk to oneanother they will never talk forever because there is never too much to talk about. There are times that what we need to do is  enjoy the presence on earth and do the things we need to do on this planet before talking.

Talking is just a small part of communication, the rest of the big picture is Non-verbal communication.  You must be able to read the nonverbal communication and not talk all the time.

I know that is why I talk a lot because I can not read non-verbal communication, but if I try a little harder than I will talk a lot less.

People will still be your friends if you don’t talk them out of it by talking too much.

I have a feeling though that people get busy sometimes and we must all take strides in order to know when the right time to talk to one of your friends who finally has the time to be with you.   Even when your friends are all married and you are single trying to still talk to them is really hard until you get married yourself.

anyway, posting later on,

out, J

article in the NY Times this past weekend

In EducationLife section of the New York Times this past weekend, there was an article called “Don’t Be Shy”

Basically its an article about how college students are taking a class called Speech Anxiety and it is required by all college students.

Rachel Aviv wrote the article for the New York Times and she is a college professor herself.

Ms. Aviv talks about how there are students that are very shy and stage frightened in social situations and need this class to get through college.

I feel that when talking there needs to be a way where everyone can be heard and no body is left out.

First of all,  this not only applies to college students, but every one in general since there are many people out there that graduated from college and still have problems with Speech Anxiety.

You either want and feel determined to do better at it or You choose not to do better and moll around complaining.

When you speak you must feel confident about yourself and confident in what your saying or about to say.  If you are not confident then you will feel anxiety from hell.

Most of the times, I or anybody else don’t speak up or talk because we are not confident with ourselves and with the projection of our voices from our voicebox.   We generally don’t want to seem like we are stupid when we are far from stupid.

Its just that we get nervous and that is a natural part of life.  When we get nervous one thing someone once told me was to hold a pen while talking because that always worked for him until the day he no longer had to hold a pen anymore and just talked.

Geez, that sounds so easy, just hold a pen in our hands twirl it like a wand and Vwala — We talk so natural and so confident and forget the anxiety all over.

Its just that we need to focus on something else besides the anxiety to get us going and talking.

Anyway, have a goodnight,

out, J