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Embrace it or Get rid of it

When I have spoken to different people about their viewpoints about Autism whether they are Neurotypicals or not, there are different ideas which strike a person about Autism. Some people believe we should cure Autism and dissolve the very nature of the condition. Some other people believe Autism is to be left untouched and embraced for the very gift it is given to that person who was given Autism. Autism is a gift from god, but some people with the gift they were given have an incredible amount of other conditions which prevent them from functioning in society. Sometimes the sensory issues are just too much for them or sometimes there emotions are just too much to handle. You can either embrace it if you can handle it or just get rid of it to become someone different entirely.

Some people believe Autism is an epidemic and are promoting to the whole world to eradicate Autism. Asperger’s Syndrome which is a part of Autism are showing other people in society, Autism does have a voice. Yes, it may be people with Asperger’s Syndrome talking and not people with Autistic Disorder, but it at least shows the voice Autism can have. People on the Autism Spectrum handle their Autism differently. It is hard to handle some of the very passionate gifts you receive from any body because very few people know how to express themselves after receiving a gift. Autism has the power to be able to intensify an interest and do great things with it, but a lot of people with Autism are too impaired to even handle it. I have spoken to a few different people about this and they told me there are some people with Autism who will just never succeed no matter what you do to help them. I am one of the lucky ones who can handle it better than the others who can’t even handle a whole hour with it. Unfortunately, other neurological conditions interfere often with Autism.

The way the Autism Spectrum is and the Neurotypical society are as well, we are all still human beings who are very emotional creatures. Someone commented on the PBS video for ‘This Emotional Life’ on YouTube in the trailer I am in stating that she or he has Asperger Syndrome and never gets lonely. Yes, people with Asperger Syndrome and Autism don’t get lonely as often as a Neurotypical person, but it does not mean we do not get lonely in the mix of spending time with our interest(s).

Neurotypicals are more social people than people on the Autism Spectrum. When someone grows up in a world where there are less people on the Autism Spectrum, there is more pressure on the person on the Autism Spectrum to be more social. When we are off doing our own thing, every one else around us tries to push us out of our own thing. This is not fair to anyone on the Autism Spectrum. If I could tell the world one thing to help a person on the Autism Spectrum, I would tell the world to let them do their own thing and express their interests as long as they are not hurting others. Let them perform their interest at their very best, but try and give some balance by teaching them a little bit of social skills a day. This way when these children become Adults, they have the necessary tools to do great things with their interest and succeed.

I know it is very hard to know when to let a child on the Autism Spectrum spend time with their interest and when to tell them it is time to learn social skills. It is like the laws of physics, sometimes it is very hard to balance things the way we want them to be. When one side goes up, the other side is bound to go down.

It’s your choice to embrace Autism or get rid of it, but in the end it is your life to do whatever you feel will make you happy. Remember we are all human with our emotions and sometimes their is a need to be with someone else to talk to. It is good to have friends.

posting again soon,


The Definition of Virtue

Aristotle once said “Virtue…is a state of character concerned with choice, lying in a mean, i.e, the mean relative to us, this being determined by a rational principle, and by that principle by which the man of practical wisdom would determine it….is best and right an extreme.” This quote is written from Aristotle’s book II.  It is a mere essence of our desires to show virtue in what comes from patience. What would Aristotle define Patience as?  Well, the Unabridged Webster’s Dictionary defines patience by saying an ability or willingness to suppress restlessness or annoyance when confronted with delay.  By saying Patience is a Virtue we are saying that it is by far an extreme right we all should develop.  Many people lack patience and want things to happen right away which is why many other people who do believe in a Cure for Autism believe it since I believe these people lack much patience in the world.   Even the people only seeking causes for Autism lack patience.  Autism is around for a reason and always has been around.  The 20 and 21 Centuries brought about lack of patience in the world.  Many people just want everything done right away. Whatever happened to the good old days of the 1800’s or even before then when people strive for teaching and allowing people on the Autism Spectrum who were very smart to become great inventors, idealists, painters, musicians, etc.  These people should be seen as role models.  I know it is very hard to diagnose dead people with an Autism Spectrum, but this is a known fact Autism is an important factor in the this world to bring Goodness in to the world.  Forget about some of the negative and just think about the children with Autism, Adults with Autism, and even seniors who have Autism right now who can make this world a better place to live.  I strongly agree with Temple Grandin in her book Animals in Translation.  People don’t want to know this, but I feel also animals and Autistics are very similar in the mind.   Many animals and for that matter all living organisms are vital in this world for the world to live.  Neurotypical people which is the majority of the world neglect many living organisms.   The neglect shows because of the  negative destructive wars and anger in this world. No body should neglect any living organism not even the cells in our own human body. We are all precious living creatures.

The recent fighting all over the war has been disgusting and appalling to see and hear about. The economic mess has been appalling to even hear of the impatience and greed in this world. It all boils down to virtue and some people just lack virtue. It is an honor for a person to even have virtue these days since so many people lack it. Greed and impatience brings down a person who is on the Autism Spectrum because then we feel like no body cares of our existence. I am very thankful to have my mother who has the most virtue and patience a person can have. My mother is one of the rare people in this world I can call a true person.

I think it is because Carl Rogers is right. Thank you mom for being the person the world should look up to. I know you are not perfect, but at least there are things in this world many other people can recognize and honor in you.

I know it is early, so I will wrap this up in a moment and definitely post later on.

Take it easy and be patient,


Motivational techniques to learn Social Skills lessons without making the same mistakes

The only person who can motivate people to learn social skills the right way is the individual who wants to learn.  Everybody can try and try to teach somebody, but if they don’t want to learn, they won’t do it.  I feel the only other person to motivate us to learn the social skills is another person who is Autistic.  Autism Spectrum Disorders is variable and unique, but we motivate each other to do better at least in my experiences.

Some people with Autism Spectrum Disorders do not want any part of Social Skills and I need to respect this even though they most likely will find life harder dealing with people in general.  I feel I want to start a Big Brother/Big Sister program for children with Autism Spectrum Disorders.  An adult on the Autism Spectrum can help these children live easier, healthier lives becoming role models to look up to.  I know ‘Big’ exists already.  I want my life to become easier with learning social skills and listening to others helping me by helping out children on the Autism Spectrum.

Social Skills continues to be essential in this life to be able to interact properly with members of society.  There are certain protocols to guide me through, to function in society.  I feel I am doing a great job, but need improvement just like anybody else.  Life is a learning experience having to always give ourselves ways to function optimally in this world.

Motivational techniques for people to learn these skills by becoming a ‘Big’ will show children who are struggling, they have a role model to observe and learn from.  It gives us the gift of life and hope for the future.  It will make my mom very proud of me giving back to this world what was given to me.

Take it easy,

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Alex Trebec said it best “Teaching is the Noblest of All Professions”

Alex Trebec is right about that.  What he does not realize is sometimes teachers just don’t know something in which they need to learn as well.  My mother who knows all about social skills naturally should teach as many Social Skills teachers as she can to be able to teach everybody Social Skills. She needs to also get paid for it because she needs to earn a living as well.  It is hard times out there for everybody.  She does have jobs right now, but this would be something I feel could be extraordinary achievement for her.

She is a remarkable person with a lot of talent which everybody needs to enjoy not just me.  I wish everybody can enjoy her talent like I do.

It makes me think about teaching and I should not listen to anybody who said to me in the past, I should not teach anybody what I do in Ultrasound.  I can’t believe I actually almost listened to that fully.  Since I need to be able to have as many people around to be able to know what I know.  Also, be able to do the good jobs I can do.  My grandma who said this to me came from a time in her life where things were different.  I understand grandma where you came from, but I am living in different times.  I need to allow other people to know and do the same good job I do as well.

I have taught people in the past, but I really didn’t teach them 100%.  I taught them about 50%.  Now I know teaching is so important.   It is so important because if somebody is willing to learn anything, you should give them the time.  We all should give somebody the time who is willing to learn.  Those who give, get a reward back in this world whether small or big, it is an award.

Take it easy, I am getting ready for a good day!

The Main Role Model of Adaptations

I have a friend at Adaptations who I feel is the main role model of Adaptations.  He will be featured soon on National Public Radio (NPR).  This person has incredible patience like no other person in the group.  It is probably why I always try and tag along with this person to ask this person how he does it even though at times he does not how he is so patient.  I have always tried to observe his behavior because I want to become a better person.  I know I am a role model as well and will be featured in the news soon too.  There also is something else in which I’d like to keep a secret about right now.  I figure even when my mom is not trying her hardest to smooth my skills, I can observe this person to help ease my mother’s teachings.

I know I probably teach him things in which he does not know either.   A friendship works only on a two way street.  You must give and get back.

I promise not to give away names, but anybody who knows me probably knows who I am talking about anyway.

Positive things can happen in this world and with the patience somebody develops in time anything is possible.  It is like what somebody said to me last year “You can’t chase the spotlight, you have to let the spotlight come to you.”  When the spotlight comes to you, you must be able to remain true to yourself and as humble a person as you always were.  I hope the next President of the United States (hopefully Barack Obama) remains humble.  It is so important like I said before.

Anyway, things are the way they are for a reason and we must all be patient with ourselves.  May be I should be patient with the Adaptations program as well since things are changing along the way. BTW, this person is also on the Autism Spectrum.