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Being Autistic and finding love can be tricky

Disclaimer: A post for Adults about love among Adults:

It’s good to fall in love with someone you want to be with even though I am still searching. Although it is also good to take it slow with baby steps as to not play it too hard. Love is in the air all the time, but we need to understand what love is. Most of us do understand what love is, but a lot of us do not. It’s a complicated process.

Being in love for an Autistic person means many questions being drawn to us. A lot of times we act, think, and do things quicker when we find love. Autistic people need love too, but we need to slow that thinking down in order to enjoy it. It’s a challenge for us. That’s why falling in love is so difficult. Either being with another Autistic or a Neurotypical person, it probably would be easier for a lot of people on the Autistic spectrum to be involved with another Autistic person. Why? Because Neurotypical people tend to not understand what it’s like to be Autistic and winds up being a bigger challenge for us. Either fall in love or live in solitude, that’s the choice we all need to make.

It’s hard for a lot of Autistic people to be open minded about love when comes to our special interests or religion. Though we are less judgmental! I feel though we fall in love very easily because we are open minded about being with just about anyone that we feel we can relate to. We are very open minded in that sense, but when it comes down to thinking about our special interests our thinking turns black and white. We love to love just like anyone else. However we need to be conscious of our black and white thinking. Just because a person dates, does not mean the two will get married at least not right away. And what is marriage anyway? Well, it’s when 2 people fall in love, engage in each other’s intimacy, and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. Anyone can marry anyone. There is someone for everyone. It’s just a matter of knowing who you want to marry. It’s a process of love, finding it, embracing it, spreading it, and spending time with the love of who you want to be with. 2 people should not be expelled from society because they want to marry. That would be ridiculous if society expelled anyone for falling in love and wanting to marry!

Love can be very tricky for an Autistic person at large. Though it’s important to keep an open mind about meeting anyone because you never know who you can fall in love with as a single person. Religion is man-made interpretations of what spirituality really is. Being in the universe, we need to feel the love around us because we need to eventually know that we contributed positively to the universe as a whole to build our own heaven. If we don’t, we go down the black hole in to nothingness where we engage in negative feelings.

So when do we find love? We will find love only when we engage with someone who we are willing to fill our hearts up without thinking about who and what the person is without thinking about why we are in love. The universe puts two people together to fall in love for a reason to show what love is. You can either take it or leave it, but never regret what the universe does. Every thing happens for a reason. Whether we fall in love or not, depends on what the universe wants from us. Not everyone is meant to fall in love supposedly, but everyone needs some kind of love to feel worthwhile and knowing that they are a part of the universe too. Otherwise the person will not feel loved and begin to hate the world. There are different ways to engage in love. Most people express it with sex while some others express love with their feelings and passions.

My advice for all those Autistic people particularly the adult population who are seeking love is to remind yourself to take 1 step at a time always slowing down the mind to not think of impulsive reactions like telling another person how much you love them. Love can trick anyone to not take it slowly. We need to let nature take it’s course to allow love between 2 people to develop the intimacy to lead up to the physical parts. Sex and sexuality are the most engaging parts of human nature. Expressing sexuality is important for anyone to not be afraid of, though sex itself is the most intimate part of what two human beings can do together. Neurotypical people tend to go straight to the sex without thinking about getting to know a person. However, sex is very powerful and the strongest intimacy two people can engage in. It can also be very painful for both people involved because either one or both of the people involved can get emotionally, physically, or spiritually hurt. What I mean by physical pain is sex can be very uncomfortable, confusing, and deeply painful touching between 2 people. Sex is not to played around with and people need to respect others first before engaging in sex. It’s so important for both parties involved in sexual activity whether a Neurotypical or Autistic person as a whole human race, to know that sex is only fun when you know who you want to love, if you choose it. Though it’s not for everyone which is why there is Asexuality.

Hope you have a great weekend!!


OUT, J

How can we balance loneliness/solitude…

Loneliness is all relative meaning something different to every one.  Solitude on the other hand, is when we need to be alone with our own thoughts.  When can we rest assure the need to be alone and the need to be with others.  May be Human beings should live their lives trying to make sure their emotions don’t go overboard most of the time.  Some people realize the strengths we have lie in trying to become a leader.  While others rely on others to follow because it is too hard to be a leader.

When someone finds truth in becoming a leader, most people decide it is not right for this person to be a leader, so they become so jealous and enraged by the leader.  Not every one can be a leader, but not every one can be a follower too.  In some cases, we should all lead our own lives without finding ourselves enraged with jealousy. This is when we need to be in the moment of solitude to recollect our thoughts for success. Afterward, we can sense who we are as a person and what we can do with our own life.

Some people are meant to write, others are meant to heal, while the rest of the world has their own niche in society.  One should realize what it takes to find their own way in to this world.  If your emotions always get the better of you, then you will never be able to do what is meant of you to do.

It is good to be with people especially when solitude can not find us anymore and we become lonely. Our emotions show we need people now. Like this picture which I just found showing our emotions are a swirl of frequencies circulating around us with different colors of energy.

Apparently, many people get too emotional in their lives to be able to think logical. They want something someone else has, and they can’t seem to grasp it, so their emotions swirl through their bodies. It is always very important to stay focused on the task at hand which you want to accomplish. Work hard because you just never know when you will succeed. Even when you do succeed, you should never attribute your emotions to become too excited and always keep a mellow attitude. Though, I have found very few people can actually keep a mellow balanced attitude. Even somebody else who becomes jealous of the success, you still need to block it out and practice the fine art of Occlumency! (Hence, every book even Harry Potter teaches us something)

Finding our way in to this world can be very hard at times.

Here are two good quotes from President Abraham Lincoln:

1) “Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any one thing.”

2) “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt.”


Anyway, posting later on…

OUT, J

What is more important?

I feel that a computer is more important than a Television set because computers are interactive and Television sets are where people sit and exercise their eyes without doing anything else.  TV’s are boring.  Computers are great.

What do you think? Especially when you have to be careful with the information you get from your TV set especially on the News. Only watch News stations that you know are telling the truth and only watch TV shows that you find are interesting to your interests.

I get all my information that I need from newspapers, magazines, and computers….

Anyway, take it easy,

out, J

which is better solitude or being with people?

I guess it depends on the person.  Some people think that people in solitude are really gay or something, but that is not true.   Sometimes in life people have to be alone and some people actually enjoy it.  Then there is a flip side and that is lonliness.  That is when people are alone because they have no choice and are ostricized for many different reasons.

How many of you have been lonely in your life? or, How many have of you people been with people your whole life? or How many of you people enjoy solitude with any one around them?

Henry David Thoreau loved being alone, it was his greatest feat in life, A Transcendentalist. Hey EG, have you been by Walden Lake in Massechuesetts. Would you EG, decide to be a Transcendentalist? LOL.

Or how about SG, would you move in with the NOMADS in Egypt, LOL, Just Kidding.

How about how many of you would be an extremist in social world.  I think its better to be a moderation of all three in this world since too much is bad, and too little is like being like g-d in which none of us are g-d.

Any newbies reading this please don’t hesitate to comment.

Hey things are the way they are because people interact whether its interacting with lower animals like abby and chloe, or other human beings.

TALK, REACH FOR THE STARS, and FORGET WHAT THIS WORLD IS ABOUT ——–> ADAPT

out, J