Let’s think of ways to avoid the heartbreak of unrequited love if there is an avoidance of it. How close to do you get to a person? and Does it really matter what culture the person is from who you fall in love with?
I don’t think we can control how close we get to a person. For me, when I meet a woman I like who does not seem to have any boyfriend or husband, I want to get closer to the person to see how much I really like this person. The closest I have ever gone with a woman I really enjoyed the company of, she wound up being older than me. How old is too old to be with somebody?
I would say the difference should be up to 5 to 8 years older or younger than me. It seems to be very hard to find a woman who is exactly my age and very compatible. Now if I am 29 years old and I meet somebody 5 to 10 years older which means 36 or 38 years old, is this a good thing or bad thing. I am Jewish and when I am somewhere to meet a woman I for example could meet a woman who is Spanish or Indian or of a different culture from what I am who seems to be very compatible with me. After a long conversation, everything seems to fade away except the individual I see who I really like a lot and eventually would want to get to know more.
Individualism is very important. We must always look at the individual first before making any determinations based on anything. I know I had fallen in love with women of different cultures and older ages, but it may just show that I can love. Though, I don’t feel I really want to love anybody again. A loving relationship in a romance sort of way brings heartaches and joys at the same time. There is too much stress involved. It is something I must think through whether or not I should try again.
I am open to meeting an individual woman who seems very compatible to me. I respect my brother who looks at a woman as an individual bef0re determining anything. Love comes in different packages and it does not have to come in a package with the same culture and background.
I think I seemed not to get to the point of how not to get involved with unrequited love, but I think there is no answer to this question. It happens sometimes…
Take it easy,
here is an image I found which signifies a person standing in the midst of darkness with a single stream of light in front of this person. Could this be a door opening?