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Transitional 2013 Creates a Fabulous Wondrous 2014!!

2013 was a year of many transitions in our diversified world all over. From the passing of Nelson Mandela to the passing of close personal peers either human or animal. 2013 was the year, Chloe the Maltese dog died. It was also the year I finally stood up for what I want to do and reach out into my nested niche which is just starting to grow. Though it is a constant battle to do what you love and without criticism from others who either pushing something else to do or criticizing in other ways. I have reached into my soul in 2013, to finally do what is necessary to make a difference in this world contributing in ways I know I can. It started many years ago, but I was blinded with wool not knowing what I can really do by having been pushed in a direction that kept me out of the direction I was intended for because of influence.

It’s a slow, long process, but I feel I am able to do it now. Life throws us curveballs, and if you try to swing at it, you can get yourself into a rut. I was trying to hit curveballs for the past 9 and a half years after I had graduated from college, and now I started to finally learn how to hit the ball. My voice is soaring along and I am learning day by day not to let others influence me anymore.

By doing so, the latest puppy in my life is Skyler the Maltese Dog who when I see her every day, gives me an example of remarkable tenacity to jump up to fulfill passion. I am earning respect from the community by starting to teach Self-Advocacy skills and empower the lives of the disability community I am so much a part of because I am Autistic. The Disability community needs to know that there are Disabled folks out there who can and will help the most struggling Disabled people around. If only organizations like Autism Speaks can notice that about Autistic adults who want to help!

Here is a picture of young Skyler (she is a white fluffy animal, long ears bending over, with her head tilted up) Skyler the Maltese Dog is a one in a million, out of the ordinary dog who brings the next phase of a better life:

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Transitions are hard, but transitions are also very good for us to experience in our lives, whether it’s a transition in our life or a transition to go beyond life once our body is time to perish. Changes in our lives glorify our being whether it’s a change in leadership within society, an organization, or within family. Sometimes the changes are good, but sometimes the changes take time to get used to. For instance, when someone dies, a new leadership steps up to the plate to take control. Transitions are hard, but once we are able to control it, it becomes beautiful.

Passing the torch to someone else is important many times over in our lives. As we pass the torch once, we pass it again over and over until the torch has ceased to shine no more or until we need to re-light the torch. Remembering the past is important, but not as important as moving forward with the lessons we learned from the past. Moving on and transitioning our lives every year encompasses our growth in our mind and spirit allowing us to lead our own lives. Life can be complicated especially when others’ influence us. Being who we are is a incredible idea we all should always incorporate every day we wake up. When you wake up tomorrow after a party from New Year’s Eve, remember what is necessary to live your life; love, connections, and emotions that give us the feelings we have all the time. Not to mention the passion and drive you feel inside to make a difference to contribute in this world. Never leave your passion for anything.

The time is now for my passion to thrive. Now is the time for my passion to exist. Now is the time to start teaching organizations like Autism Speaks what really matters, giving as many Autistic adults the chance to help our fellow Autistic peers young and old struggling more than ever. Now is the time for me and all my Autistic peers who are similar to me to help give our struggling peers a voice and that they matter too! No matter where you fall in Human diversity, remember how much you matter and how much you can give to the world too. (If you need someone to read this to you, just remember the last line I said)

Let’s begin 2014 with the year every Autistic person thrives in their lives, living every day knowing they make a difference too!

Happy New Year!!! Be Passionate in what you know you want to do to be happy 😉

OUT, J

Happy New Year!!!

There is a World of Amazing People you CAN Meet!!

This is Autism! Autistic people do have empathy.

What most people can’t fathom is that Autistic and Disabled people everywhere are capable if only they are given a chance and given their rights to live better in the world. There was a recent study which said that people with Autism Spectrum Disorder like Aspergers actually have too much empathy where it’s hard to cope with others because of it. If you haven’t read about this yet, please do so, here! Most people do not understand the reasons why people withdraw from the outside world, do not understand the anxieties of Autistic folks, and do not understand the meltdowns.

Human beings are very diverse and the diversity of so many different people around societies give us more to learn about. Everyone is learning slowly about what it means to be Human. Being Human means we are all in it together and need to bring our communities together. No one is less than Human, and everyone has the many ways of being who they are.

Everybody needs to know to give people a chance to live their life. Living life is not living in a group home, sheltered workshop, or other institutions. It’s living amongst the community while the community helps each other. There is no one left behind and everyone is included. Unfortunately, many people do not think this way. Instead they feel segregated institutions are the way to go. Though many people forget what happened during segregation throughout history.

Community-based programs allow Autistic and Disabled people to live independently with help from the community at large. The more the communities come together, the more people will understand, the more people will listen, the more acceptance there will be, and the more Autistic and Disabled people will be able to feel more comfortable in their societies. Being comfortable in the environment and being comfortable with the people around you, only lifts the barriers completely that Autistic and Disabled people have faced all these years.

There are many people who neglect to listen to someone because they are slower to talk to or need to communicate in other ways. However, listening to everyone speaking is not just listening with your ears. It’s also listening with your body. It’s important to follow your intuition and know that your intuition of how to listen to someone is different for everyone you listen to. Everyone has empathy, but some people in general ignore the empathy they were born with. It’s important to not ignore it, not push it away, but soak it all in guiding your strength with it.

The guidance we as a disability community get from the rest of the community at large only makes us a better person. So, the communities that we live in should always include everyone in conversations about them. It’s important to know that we have always lived in an interdependent society where everyone should be supporting each other. ‘Nothing about us, without us’ is so important!

OUT, J

It’s time for Everybody to Remember about the Importance of Self-Determination for anyone!

Self-determination can very hard for any one, but in the end anyone, can respect themselves more, while others respect more who the person is. I find some Non-Disabled people do not see the whole picture. A person who wants to live in a particular area, work in a particular job, or do what they know can to help humanity, should have the right to do it. Societies are always pushing their thoughts, ideas, and motives on to the disability community to tell us how to think. The earlier a child is pushed to do it on their own, the more the child will have the ability to do the actions on their own. It’s also interesting how in the early Twentieth Century, there were many youth who as an adolescent, really worked, and built their lives earlier than many do now. Nowadays, standardized testing and intelligence scales are focused more than the creations any adolescent youth used to work on to build their lives.

Telling others to always use person first language does not allow anyone to have self-determination. It just instructs Autistic and Disabled people to go along with what other people say. The time is now to allow everyone to be able to identify themselves however they want to be called. No one can tell another person what they should be called and no one can tell a person how to live their life as long as they are not hurting themselves or others. Most people do not realize that Autistic people around the world need to live their life a certain way in order to be living their life the way they know they can. Self-Determination is allowing everyone to figure out how they want to live their life without influence from anyone else and know exactly how they want to be identified as. So, why are there still some people always trying to push their ways of identifying others especially on Autistic and Disabled people. That is not self-determination.

It really is interesting when I know that there are some Autistic people who say they are happy, however professionals, parents, or caregivers are forcing them to socialize in unexpected ways because they insist the Autistic person is unhappy. Socializing with others is a different process for everyone. Everyone socializes, but not everyone socializes the same way or at the same times as the majority of people. A lot of people will socialize by talking and making eye contact, but many others do not and can not do that. There are many people who socialize just be hugging, flapping, spinning, or using a Augmentative and Assistive Communication device (AAC) such as an iPAD. It’s interesting socializing is made to be an important factor for life especially when we see it in media throughout history. Watch this episode from Ghost Whisperer, season 2, episode 4 on Netflix or buy the TV series online at Amazon. This episode was the most accurate portrayal of Autistic people I have ever seen. It aired in 2007. Watch the episode and it’s not what you would expect.

I’ve heard some Autistic people who said that they wished they could just walk up to anyone and start a conversation on their own, but they literally can not do that. There are also some who do not care to start talking to anyone because they just want to work on their interest which a lot of people call, their ‘special interests’.

This past week I went to the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network’s Annual Gala in Washington D.C.!!! It was great meeting and increasing my network while enjoying the amazing night. Congratulations to Henry Frost for his amazing work and being included in the public school system!!

(To be continued…)

OUT, J