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A Poem Called “Gram-mar, Gramm-er, GRAMMAR”

Gram-mar, Gramm-er, GRAMMAR

(Trigger Warning: this poem is about grammar. It is intended to de-stigmatize those people with grammar disabilities like dyslexia. Please read with caution and do not overlook the grammar)

by theamazinJ

It is something some disabled people have trouble with,
it’s called a formality of writing,
a presentation for the way things should look,
a view of the way a person finalizes their writing.
Gramker or Gramm-ar, or Gramm-er, or just GRAMMAR!
GRAMMAR is something some disabled people have problems communicating with,
and by doing so these disabled people feel oppressed
when they feel they struggle learning the proper ways to enunciate words,
the proper ways to communicate their writing and speech,
because communication is key to understanding every part of
what a person is trying to convey to their readers and listeners.
Communication has become formal and constricted to grammar.
Communication is important for everyone to understand
the way we will all speak, the way we type to speak, and even write to speak.
GRAMMAR! What the hell is it? Why is it so important?
Grammar helps everyone understand what we are trying to say to each other
in the most effective way possible,
some do better with composition writing, some do better with text to speech,
some do better with talking with their voice, some do better with wring with a pen,
some do better with painting, some do better with poetry,
some even do better filming themselves.
there are accommodations to grammar, to being grammatically correct in our own way,
Many disabled people struggle with this, with this A LOT, I know I do!
Grammar is something that everyone struggles with too
from a very few and far between to a lot,
but some things can be grammar to one human culture and not a problem to another.
It all depends on what culture you are in and what culture you are writing for.
There are some grammar in certain cultures that is fine while in others it is not.
Mainstream culture fights for certain things to be said their way,
while other cultures fight for their grammatical ways to be accepted,
some grammar is universally accepted by everyone.
Grammar has come to help others understand the communicator,
so that the audience from whatever can understand appropriately
without misunderstandings and listening appropriately.
Grammar is designed for communication,
everyone has their own design,
everyone has their own way,
and everyone wants to communicate to everyone.
we communicate for ourselves, to send out a message for others to hear,
so others can understand our message with empathy,
to find a community that understands the most,
and to heal the wounds that lay in our heads
from before the message was presented in the way we wanted it.
The message needs to be clear, it needs to be settled,
and it needs to have grammar no matter what.
Get fit, find your grammar, and learn grammar!

Struggling to Communicate with People my Whole Life

Communication is key!!

However, I have been struggling to communicate with people my whole life from speech difficulties, being Autistic (not being a mainstream general person), and living my life as a person who cannot understand the jargon most people including my family tries to convey to me. This is when self-advocacy becomes important especially when I need my space too, understanding other people’s words spoken to me, and knowing when to communicate with or without my mouth.

Communication is key!!

But, my communication style has always been a struggle for others to understand. I do have echolalia, I do have multi-sensory issues, I do stim, I do think visually, and I love listening to people through music and I do love to dance like my papa Dave did!

Communication is key!!

Struggling to communicate is improper with people who struggle because everyone needs to interact and speak in a standard way through vocalizing thoughts through the mouth from mainstream society.

What can we do? What are we able to communicate to others when there is a disconnect especially with families and their Autistic children and siblings?

Connection is good, however when there is too much disconnect between families and their Autistic children or siblings, there needs to be a meeting point of each other to meet half way. By meeting halfway, we need to communicate by seeing each other at the right distance without seeing too far or too close. This is a problem for all families of Disabled people and Disabled people themselves.

Communication is key and the social model is much better when the medical model has caused so much pain and stigma!!

When can communication become the right when all of us who need to connect with each other? When can we understand and accept each other regardless???

Language is individualized for each person. Self-determination is important for everyone while the importance of connection continues through learning from each other, learning on our own, and not being dependent on the system being medical model or stigmatizations society give us.

This is all the things to think about as when we need acceptance and understanding during the month of April for Autism Acceptance Month.

Remember communication is a two way street of understanding each other without getting too stressed, too angry, too overreaction, or too hurt from pain causing other’s too much pain too. I have felt pain in my past, but now it’s time to move forward and be happy as I remember the very need to maintain myself to continue to be positive!

Love my family, love all my friends, love all my support network, and love the world.

Thank you all!!!

Communication is KEY!!!

Doing well in graduate school!!!!