I know there are always times when we just don’t want to do anything except help ourselves.  Some people get this way most of the time.  I find it is good at times to help out others because you never know when a reward will appear in your life.  A reward so simple as a Thank you, another lending hand, or anything which someone is saying or doing in appreciation of something you did.  The President should be the leader who begins to show the country this sense of self.

The next President of the United States could be Obama most likely.  When I looked at a comment somebody wrote on my posting earlier today, I started to think about who was a good president in the first place.  I don’t know if there could be a good president since no body is perfect and everybody has their faults.

The President of the United States should be very humble and intelligent to be President of the United States.  The President should always be a leader and show the American people a role model to look up to establishing himself as the type of person who listens to those who need help.  It will be very hard for the next President to please everybody in the United States because of the Global Economic Crisis.  Now there will always be somebody complaining about their life.

If the next President can get every citizen to work together and help each other out, then it would be an achievement of  a lifetime.  I don’t recall any President ever creating a system where every citizen worked with one another helping each other out.  There is too much greed in this country.  There are still executives in big corporations who still want the big fat paychecks.  These executives may be receiving paychecks they do not fully deserve.  We need to all figure out if there should be a cap salary for all careers/jobs even for all athletes especially baseball players who do not have cap salaries.  I want to know whether or not a person receiving these big fat paychecks are still as humble a person.  When a person receives money starting from the millions, I figure it must be harder for the person to stay humble.  There are probably a rare number of people making a lot of money who still remain humble.  Not only being humble is rare, but also having a tenacity to never give up.

Obama seems to have a tenacity where he seems to never give up.  He doesn’t care about what others say, and just does what he wants to do to succeed in life.  Actually the tenacity Obama has is similar to the tenacity I have.  I will never give up no matter what.  I will try very hard even though at times it is also very difficult to achieve something so easy or so hard.

For the people who tell me I have made great achievements, I respond back to tell them I want to achieve so much more.  At the same time I make achievements, I want to be able to stay true to myself.  I know at times it can be very hard to be humble, I know I do a good job at being humble when others tell me how much I help them.  Although no body is perfect all of the time which is very hard for me to understand.

Anyway, we must all think about how we can help ourselves be a better person by observing what other people in the world do which makes the world good and learning those good traits.

Have a goodnight and I post again soon…

OUT, J

I wonder how most people live with certain people in their lives even with all their antics and shtick.  It is interesting to know before the 1960’s, it was rarity people all over the world would get a divorce.  Most people just dealt with whoever they were living with and tried to make the most out of it.  I find whoever dealt with the people they were living with who seemed negative and miserable or who were very anxious people, are those people who were the strongest individuals the world has probably ever seen.

Nowadays when a couple gets married most of the time they do not stay married for much longer.  Most of the time it is because one of the spouses can’t take anymore of the other spouses antics or shtick.  It is really sad to see how these spouses do not have the same strength as the other spouses who dealt with the same stuff or worse before 1960.  I hear about how my Grandpa who dealt with my living Grandma , and I hear about how my Grandma dealt with my living Grandpa.

I wonder how we all deal with these people who we say we want to marry and marry them for the rest of our lives.  I am not married yet, but I don’t want to ever get married because there are too many stresses going on during the time frame in which people have to spend the rest of their lives with the person they choose.  By choosing to end the marriage early and getting a divorce, you show the whole world how weak you are because I see how strong all these other spouses were when they were married before 1960.  It amazes me to see a couple who has been married for over 60 years because it goes to show the inner strength deep down inside of them to be able to handle all the antics and shtick.

Marriage is something that most of us take for granted these days.  I hear in the news how people get married in their 20’s and 30’s and wonder to myself about how they could do it.  The divorce rate is nearly skyrocketing these days and mostly because of the individuals getting married in their 20’s.   Inner strength is a good trait to have, if you can get married and keep the marriage going till your 61st Anniversary and many more,  you have definitely accomplished a great feat.

Sometimes I see people who are even in their 30’s who wind up getting divorced because they just can’t take it anymore and want to go and have fun finding another woman or man.  Most of these people wind up never finding anything more and regret ever getting divorced in the first place.  Though there are sometimes I find even with many friends of mine who get married, divorced, and then they do find the individual to love them for the rest of their life.  I have a special friend who has found someone she has fallen in love with and I am happy she is not one of those people still searching.

Love can be very hard.  You may find someone you love and you may feel like this is the one, but you must try very hard to work it out as much as you can with the strength inside of you.  By using the strength inside of you, it will help guide you through the marriage.

I have not found anybody I can fall in love with quite yet, and for some reason I am very close to not wanting to be married at all.  Since there are so many things involved in a marriage in which you have to deal with the inner workings of your spouse and your own self.  I give all the support to those people who had to deal with a spouse they just could not deal with at all, but lived with them till they had to die.  I also give all the support to those spouses who are living with those spouses who are tough.  These spouses living with rough marriages are trying their hardest to live with a spouse and make a marriage work.  Those people are really strong.

For those who could not handle the other spouse and had no choice, but to get a divorce, I respect and honor your decision.  It must be really hard for many people to build up the strength inside of them to handle the spouse they eventually want to divorce.  Remember it is not the fact that you could not have the strength to handle the spouse you were married to, but it is the learning experience to develop the strength inside of you to eventually handle life a lot better.  Life is a learning experience to which we must all live trying to build the strength up we need to succeed in life.

The same goes for when parents who live with their children who grow up to be adults and children growing up dealing with their parents.  We all need to build up the strength inside of us to live the rest of our lives.  We seem to live our lives trying to build up strength to handle any obstacle which passes our way.   A life is journey which travels through the fields whether it is a city street, a road on a highway, or just simple wooded trail in the forest.  We must have the confidence and strength inside to be able to walk around with this person and help the person out no matter what.

Sometimes I know there are times where we don’t even want to look at this person because the person makes us want to vomit.  We must also realize the person who we don’t want to look at may have had a rough life because they could not build up the strength inside like most other people.  It does take a lot of work for some people to have the same strength other people may have strength so easily.  We must all please be very courteous and helpful to those who are having trouble developing the same strength you may find so easily.

Marriage is a commitment which only the strongest people in the world can be able to handle.  People who are not as strong as they should be, should look at how other people who are stronger and can make a marriage last.   My parents have been happily married for a very long time already and I hope when they reach their 40th Anniversary, they look back and see how their strength developed through the years.   Every marriage does not have the strength to begin with and needs to develop the strength over time.   It is a part of the inner workings of marriage.

To answer my question about how most people can handle a difficult spouse, I say the spouse who can handle their very difficult spouse is probably one of the most strongest individuals in the world.

Dealing with a spouse, sibling, or even a friend you are trying to help can be at times the most difficult tasks for anybody handle.

An Aspie like myself can be at times very difficult to handle, but as each day passes I become a better person which to those trying to help may seem so minute at times.   Those minute moments I am becoming a better person is still an accomplishment even though it may not seem like one at the time.  By the time I reach my 40th birthday which is 11 years from now, I will be just about complete as a great person in this world.  Asperger Syndrome does not need to be cured, it just needs the support and consideration to help get where we ought to be at.  I am lucky enough to have so many people in my life including my family, my boss, coworkers, and so many other friends in my life who are in Ultrasound or just a good friend from who I met at Adaptations or even other friends to help me through the process.  I am realizing my life is what it is and I can be a better person as each day passes by.

I am someday am going to make all these people proud of me for the man I will become someday.  Even those people who were my teachers in nursery school through College Life and even other people who crossed my paths.    Whoever crosses my path in life is meant to be the person who will help me be the better man I will eventually become.

Have a good day and I will post later on.  Damn it, I have to finish the vacuuming now.

OUT, J

A chicken lays eggs many times a year.  Yet, what are we supposed to do? Before a chicken lays an egg  we know the egg is a golden egg.   When the egg is ready to hatch the most beautiful inspiring chicken  appears.  Every one will look at this little chicken and say to themselves “Wow, your chicken looks like the most beautiful inspiring chicken in the world.”

We need to let the golden egg mature and grow inside to be able to show it off.  Patience comes with waiting for the golden egg to hatch.  Eggs take time to develop, and we need to be patient.  It even takes 9 months for a human baby to be born.  That’s incredible!  Knowing about all of this, saying anything to anybody would just mean we will have the possibility of losing the little inspiring chicken which will hatch or the human baby which will be born.

For example, somebody tells you I have a million dollars for you and you listen to them.  I would believe them, but there is always a catch.   You ask the person, “What’s the catch?” and the person replies “You must do certain tasks for me in order to obtain the million dollars.”

By doing the tasks, you can’t walk around thinking you have the million dollars when it is not even in your bank account.  You can’t even tell anybody about the deal the person made with you at all even though it may seem too easy to tell everybody about the deal.   Telling anybody about the deal with this person might not be the wisest thing to do because even though you are doing the tasks you may not get the million dollars anyway.  The best way to deal with a situation like this is to not tell anybody at all.  If somebody asks you why you are doing these tasks, you just say I am doing it for my health.  As soon as you finish the tasks, you bring your projects to the person who said they would give a million dollars and in return they will give you a million dollars to put in your bank account.  Now would be the time to celebrate since you received your reward.

The idea is there are too many impulsive and impatient people in this world who would tell their closest buddies.  Things with huge reward should not be repeated unless you actually have the reward.  Patience is a virtue for anything we do.  As someone once said to me a long time ago, “Don’t chase the spotlight, let the spotlight chase you.”

I need to remind myself all the time to be patient because I know I want certain things to happen for me at work in order to get my own place.  Well, all things happen to those who wait.  Apparently I need to wait a little bit longer.  May be I need to relax when I am home with my parents and grandma living the moment.  I know I need to wait, I have known this for a very long time already.

I am still developing like I always.  We are all developing throughout our lives.  No body reaches their pinnacle ever unless they have reached the time in their life when they are old and gray.  Although some people who are old and gray never reach their pinnacle and are still trying to develop.  There are some people who are old and gray who live their lives just wanting to maintain what they have been like not wanting to grow any further.  I think it is because they get tired too easily.

Anyway, I feel a bit tired myself for a moment so I will just post later on.

OUT, J

Evolution has changed many things in our past in regards to living cells.  A single living cell in Human beings for instance has changed many aspects of our mind and body.  Our brains have changed considerably over centuries since the beginning of the human race.  History has shown the brain to have changed the most.  The brain and mind changes all the time.  We are learning many things in our minds every day.  Our minds have experienced changes in our lives which then experience changes in our behavior.  Many people have recognized very recently there are two types of minds in the world, A Neurotypical mind and an Autistic mind.  A neurotypical mind has many of the instincts and social behaviors in which an Autistic mind does not.  An Autistic mind has quite the opposite of the mind of a Neurotypical.  An Autistic mind has to try and adapt to the Neurotypical mind because the Autistic mind is not accepted as much in this world.   The Autistic mind thinks about different survival tactics.   My Autistic mind which is on the other side of the spectrum has observed many different Neurotypicals and their behavior.   The observations I have noticed in my life about Neurotypical society in men and women are the social aspects of their behavior and the instinctive feelings they have.  For instance, the instincts they get at home, at work, and with their friends.   Neurotypicals know how to change their instincts as soon as they leave one area such as home to another area such as work.  Home and work are two different areas of a person’s life.  At home a person may act one way, but at work they will act differently.

I know you may feel I need to explain more, and I will explain further tonight…

have a good day,

out, J

When we give out Too Much Information people tend to either tell us that we give out too much information or they tend to laugh and run with it telling the whole world.  Gossip is very big in this world, it is human nature, and everyone loves it.

Why? Because they just do.

Think of it like this, when we gossip our impulses give in and we strive for more gossip and more gossip and more gossip until the day that no one can trust anybody because every one has gossiped so much that it leads on to a different road.  A road that is more traveled then less traveled.

The road less traveled is quieter and easier to go down because there are no gossipers whatsoever and we can get things done a lot better.

My grandma feels that no body can ever be alone, yet she can never be alone because there are many people like myself who like to be alone sometimes.   Being alone in a forest by Walden Pond for example is nice sometimes to collect your thoughts and be your own.

Yet, sometimes we must be with people so that we are not completely alone. It is called Balancing your life.

Solitude is good, people are good, so why not both 50/50.

Being with people is hard when it is an impulse to reveal too much information about oneself.   That is why we should all be in solitude at some points during the day.  Yet, another person I know says that life is a learning process and that we need to learn from our mistakes when talking to other people.

Eventually we should be able to attain the teachings from ourself that the eternal one wants us to learn.   Some people just feel that everything takes time.  Time is what is going on now as I type.   Things become the past and we must move forward in each second of time.

Hopefully we learn from the mistakes eventually.   Some people like the Senior community will not really learn new things or change their ways because they are already set in their ways and will pass on to the next…

Anyway, learn and keep learning trying to attain the guidance from other people who know better than you.   The ones that don’t know better and are bad influences stay away from.

In essence, we should be in solitude some of the time. That is the best way for us to live especially when Aspies like me tend to like that.

take it easy,

out, J

Life at the moment seems unpredictable.  Doesn’t seem unpredictable all the time though.  Things in life turn the wheel in several ways.  There is good, there is bad, which way does the wheel turn for you.   We all hope the wheel turns a certain way that gives us the enjoyment we need in life.  Yet, when something bad happens, we tend to get very emotional and want pity.  What is pity anyways? Pity is from the American Heritage  Dictionary online says that Pity is, Sympathy and sorrow aroused by the misfortune or suffering of another. 2. A matter of regret.

Is it alright to Pity someone or yourself?  Or is it better to rise from the occasion and move on up in to the world.

Self-Pity is the most common type of Pity, yet it just gets other people upset.

It makes others feel that you are being too hard on yourself.

When Jerks walk through the door and  he/she feel they can step all over you, you allow it to happen, and create self-pity because you allowed a Jerk to rule your life.

Everybody should read John Stuart Mill’s On Liberty and tell me what you think.

Liberty is well to many people Liberty is different.  How much freedom does people need in this world?

We have Ethics which are unwritten rules of the world, we have religious rules, we have government rules, and we have many other different types of rules.  If we didn’t have rules, then people would run wild and their would be chaos in this world.

Ethics is very important because it gives us rules to live by, government rules are the MOST important because then we know what to expect where we live, and religious rules are not so important.

Religion is man-made, and people need religion to believe in faith when in fact just to have faith is believing in the eternal one.  People think that they say prayers only in the place of worship, yet every time we talk in public about something that is either bothering us, giving us hope, angry about something, … we are saying prayers to the faith up their who is listening to us.  So, in essence, we still go to our place of worship because then we know that we are respecting the faith up there beyond us.  Whatever religion you believe in it is all history and storytelling.   We don’t know what to believe, yet we believe in what was taught to us as a baby.  No matter what we all must have faith.

We must all obey all rules in life.  Ethics, Governmental, and if you want to whatever religion you believe in because these rules give order.

The question is how do we determine the rules and the freedom.   It is very debatable.   People can debate this to kingdom come, but the frank of it all is that is why we vote for who we want into governmental jobs. We vote to whoever will give us the rules we want in life.  The United States is very very big with more people in this country then ever before to debate.

So, whoever votes, not everyone will be happy with the outcome and everyone has their own viewpoints.

Majority rules in this case because if there are a majority of people who want something, then that is what the country gets.

The minority of people that don’t want what the majority got into office causes controversy.

Controversy rules history and will always be in history.   There will always be feuds of people arguing with one another till the end of time.

Everyone desires different things, yet the only one who knows what is right is the perfection of the faith up there that knows what is right.  We can argue yes we can argue, but we won’t know the truth till we are old and gray lying on our deathbeds.   So, live your life and debate the issues because we are different from lower vertebrates because we have the ability to reason and debate.

Go out there and talk with people to try and get your viewpoints across because we need to get our viewpoints across especially people on the autism spectrum live myself because this is NOT AN EPIDEMIC.

AUTISM, ASPERGERS, PDD have been around for thousands and thousands of years since the world first started and the fact that there are more people being diagnosed with these syndromes just goes to show you that this world is being more aware of it.

This is genetic and we need to prove that to the whole world.  Let us ALL be heard.

Have a great day and take it easy,

out, J

These people like myself and other Aspies and Spectrumites, other people with disabilities, and the older population like my parents, or people of different cultures looking for full time jobs with benefits. It is amazing that people do not want to employ people on the spectrum, people with other disabilities, people like my parents who are in the older category which entails the baby boomer’s, or people of different cultures that need jobs. This society is messed up. Employers only want to employ those who are “Perfect” in their own minds. Ones that are NT, young, with no other disabilities, and of course the same culture as the employer. That is messed up. How can that be. And when an employer sees a person with any of those categories or all of those categories, they get worried that the job won’t get done properly. Even when the employer chooses to employ part time to start out. An employer must allow EVERYONE (not just specific people) to be able to SUCCEED in life. Everyone has the willing right to succeed in life, not just those that are faster, younger, or different in any way.

I see it with my parents searching for jobs, I see it with myself at work where I am just part time and not full time, and I also see it with people of different nationalities to the employer that is trying to seek employees.

The Civil Rights movement happened for a reason, and we ALL must abide by it.

Civil Rights not only applies to every nationality, but to every type of disability such as Asperger Syndrome, and to the Older Baby Boom population.

For instance, this country is getting older and older which means that people are living longer lives. This means that people are going to work longer and not retire at 65 years old. Retirement should be extended to at least 70 years old so that people are staying off Social Security and earning income.

Income is important for everyone to earn and that includes every human being that wants to work and earn a living.

The recession has started and that means job loss, but it just means that we must work harder at helping each other out because that is what the eternal one created us for. He didn’t create us to be selfish, petty, and sneering at those that are different.

WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE in our own ways creating self fulfillment and self worth and dignity or pride in ourselves.

Just take a look at Governor Patterson, he is a prime example of what different can do. Sometimes different can do better than the same.

Anyway, take it easy,

out, J

The eternal one up there is watching over us. Yet, how much is he looking at us, hearing our words, taking our own prayers, and up there most of the time.

I find that people worry too much about that especially people that are religious in any religion. Religion is man-made and everyone and every religion interprets faith differently and how that faith is revealed is very subjective.

Jewish people will say I AM RIGHT, Christians and there are heck of a lot of Christians there the majority of the world will say NO, I AM RIGHT, people who study the Koran will say NO, I AM RIGHT, people who study any other type of religion will swear up and down I AM RIGHT.

The fact of the matter is that, NO BODY IS RIGHT!

Every one has their feelings in life about what is out there, but if you stop thinking about religions that are man-made and start thinking about just becoming a person and living your life just doing it, then life will be better off. There are so many resentful people out there that turn against others because they are not believing in what they want you to believe in.

Every one has their own religion and every one who talks words out of their mouth every minute of every day speaks in prayers to the eternal one up there.

Be careful with every word you say since every sentence can be considered a prayer.

Most people think that prayers are when you read a book in temple, church, or whatever you call it, but that is not true. Prayers can be whatever words you want to say to the eternal one up there.

Forget what others write and tell to you to read, just say it from your heart because that is the only way a prayer gets out in the open and that will help you get to where you want to be at.

There are too many voices of people in the world, a lump sum of approximately 500 billion people probably that need to be heard. The world is overcrowded and that is why people probably don’t say their own prayers and wisdom to the faith.

Prayers to faith comes and goes, but prayers in religion stays because people want to read what others write. Yes, what others write is history of the religion, but its not your own prayers.

I am not saying to not read that history because if that history means something to you by all means read it, but don’t forget your own prayers and wisdom too.

Take it easy,

out, J